It's the weekend!

**Mouse** · 19-12-2020, 05:40 PM

How's everyone doing? Is this your last relaxing weekend before a manic Christmas or is it your last manic weekend before a relaxing Christmas?

Has anyone moved into the new tier 4 or had to change their Christmas plans? We'd only got as far as making firm plans for Christmas Day, which we can still do, but we won't now arrange anything for any other days. We won't be able to see one of our sons other than on Christmas Day, which is a shame when we can see all our other children. He's the only one of us who hasn't had covid already, so I want him to stay home and keep safe! There'll be plenty of time to get together later in the year

I know it'll be tough for some people, so if your plans have had to change drastically, have a hug

**SYLVIA** · 19-12-2020, 07:05 PM

Yep we are now in hibernation. I was expecting to work till Wednesday but just doing Monday now. Our Christmas plans haven’t changed but DD1 and husband and 2 boys were going round the corner to his mums and DD2 was off to Yorkshire to spent xmas with her dad and step mum. She is furious as she lives on her own, has worked all through since April and feels it’s ok to go but dad has said no. The 23rd is both their birthdays so she was planning on spending it with him for the first time in over 20 years. I really feel for her but totally understand what he says as the guide lines are no travelling in or out of the tier.

**Maza** · 19-12-2020, 07:34 PM

Yes, big hugs to everyone who is having to cancel plans now.

This morning I had a prospective parent visit. I had an uneasy feeling about them before they even got here, and my goodness, I knew within seconds that I couldn't offer them the place. I was really relieved that the meeting had to be done in the garden because the two children didn't really know any boundaries and were energetic to say the least. I said from the start that I had another mum who was coming to do a second visit this afternoon and so was first in line. I have since messaged her to say that the parent asked for the space. She hasn't acknowledged my message yet, so I'm a bit tense. Has anyone else not offered a place to a parent before?

Just watching Strictly now.

**Mouse** · 19-12-2020, 07:52 PM

Oh Sylvia, that's a shame that your family's plans will have to change. Hopefully though, the more people that stick to it, the quicker everyone can get back to some sort of normal xx

**SYLVIA** · 19-12-2020, 08:05 PM

Originally Posted by Mouse

Oh Sylvia, that's a shame that your family's plans will have to change. Hopefully though, the more people that stick to it, the quicker everyone can get back to some sort of normal xx

Luckily, DD2 has us as her support bubble so she can spend the day with us so at least she doesn’t have to spend it on her own. We can still meet up together for a walk. It is what it is and we just have to get on with it. I’ve done xmas at Easter before when DD1 had a c-section on 18 December and I can do it again.

**Mouse** · 19-12-2020, 08:29 PM

Originally Posted by SYLVIA

Luckily, DD2 has us as her support bubble so she can spend the day with us so at least she doesn’t have to spend it on her own. We can still meet up together for a walk. It is what it is and we just have to get on with it. I’ve done xmas at Easter before when DD1 had a c-section on 18 December and I can do it again.

I think that's the best attitude to have. I've seen so many angry posts on social media, but it is what it is. From reading some posts you'd think the Government had only done this to annoy people! It must be sad and frustrating for those moving into tier 4, but needs must.

**SYLVIA** · 19-12-2020, 09:09 PM

To be honest apart from school runs I’ve virtually lived like it since March. I’m beginning to think how boring my life is as I haven’t missed anything😳

**Mouse** · 19-12-2020, 08:25 PM

Originally Posted by Maza

Has anyone else not offered a place to a parent before?

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I had to do it a couple of years ago. I suspected the child had an undiagnosed SEN and I knew I didn't have the physical space for her. She was a big girl and would have needed a lot of space to run round. I was also already looking after a child with a SEN and knew I wouldn't be able to give adequate care to them both and the other children.

It makes you feel awful when you have to turn them down, but sometimes you know it's the right thing to do.