Argh, am I being too harsh?

[kellib]

I used to try very hard never to impose sanctions that made my life more difficult

So I'd have withdrawn something else but let him go on the sleepover because that was a break for me

Hugs xx

That's exactly what I would have done!

[Mouse]

I used to try very hard never to impose sanctions that made my life more difficult

So I'd have withdrawn something else but let him go on the sleepover because that was a break for me

Hugs xx

My DH always used to tell our children they were grounded. I had to tell him not to do that. He was out at work all day and it was me stuck at home, working and having to deal with stroppy teenagers

[Tippy Toes]

I used to try very hard never to impose sanctions that made my life more difficult

So I'd have withdrawn something else but let him go on the sleepover because that was a break for me

Hugs xx

I agree!

I usually stop them having any television/time on computer. That seems to really work.

I got the idea from the Cathy Glass book - Happy kids. Really good book with ideas/ways of managing behavior xx

[Mrs Dolphin]

I personally don't think it is too harsh as its disgusting, but regardless of that you now HAVE to follow through and not allow him to go as you have said that. I think the worse thing you can do is go back on what you say as then all they learn is mum won't follow though!

My 2 (nearly 5 and 2yrs) go to bed sametime (holiday or no) I don't mind if they play in their beds for a bit but me and my husband need the evenings to ourselves. They are upstairs for 7pm so we can then relax. I am lucky in that the may play in bed for half an hour but then send themselves off to sleep without any problems.

[mushpea]

you are certainaly not being to harsh,, he needs to learn its not acceptable and if you let him go now he will just think he can get a way with things,,

[The Juggler]

I used to try very hard never to impose sanctions that made my life more difficult

So I'd have withdrawn something else but let him go on the sleepover because that was a break for me

Hugs xx

me too i would have warned him, stopped some TV time or something similar. I don't think stopping the sleepover is too harsh just counterproductive for you. Spitting is horrible and some sanctions are necessary. However, I agree he might be demonstrating his resentment about the early nights and that it might be nice to let him stay up a little later than his sister to show you trust and treat him as an older/big brother.

Could he go a little later than his sister??