'' hes had a little adventure'' - overreacting or not?

[Kah]

That is horrendous! So glad your little boy can swim as could so easily have had a nasty outcome

[LOOPYLISA]

Thank god he could swim

No if it were me he wouldnt be going again anytime soon x

[samb]

That is awful - I actually feel quite sick at the thought.

Wow well done to your ds though for managing to swim to the side.

[nipper]

It's made my blood run cold just thinking about it...a little adventure?
I don't think I would have reacted properly straight away if I had been you, but given time, my goodness...

[VINASOL]

OMG!

And the parent didn't even phone you immediately after it happened, she just dropped him home as if nothign had happened. Did I read that right?

[mama2three]

OMG!

And the parent didn't even phone you immediately after it happened, she just dropped him home as if nothign had happened. Did I read that right?

Afraid so.
Have seen her since and she seems incredibly flippant about the whole thing. Feel a little sorry for Q and his friend M though as Q wont be going again!

[VINASOL]

I don't blame you, but what about all the other little children that he has over for play dates? How safe are they!

This is so frightening and if it'd happened to us CMs we would be in serious trouble....

[desiderata]

I am very shocked that they let this happen and I would personally be worried about what may have been in the lake and how that could have affected your little one. I too would never let him play there again and rightly or wrongly let other people she has over know what happened.

[flowerpots]

Im extremely shocked at this!!!!

My brothers best friend fell into a lake when he was 14, his foot got stuck in some sort of underwater plant and he died.

Im glad you ds is ok. xxx

[VINASOL]

I am very shocked that they let this happen and I would personally be worried about what may have been in the lake and how that could have affected your little one. I too would never let him play there again and rightly or wrongly let other people she has over know what happened.

I think if it were me, I'd be contacting SS. Surely this is neglect from your lo's friend's parents? ('failing to protect a child from physical and emotional harm or danger)? I think some serious and harsh words need to be said to this parent...how many examples have we had of children who have drowned and could easily have been prevented.

[FussyElmo]

I think if it were me, I'd be contacting SS. Surely this is neglect from your lo's friend's parents? ('failing to protect a child from physical and emotional harm or danger)? I think some serious and harsh words need to be said to this parent...how many examples have we had of children who have drowned and could easily have been prevented.

Whereas I agree that the OP shouldnt be sending her son again and the mum shouldnt be so flippant about the situation.

I totally disagree about SS being called. It was an unfortunate accident and whereas it could have been avoided it not like the parents themselves were pratting by the water.

Where do we stop if people start reporting accident a child falls down the stairs at a friends mum shouldnt have let them up etc should that be reported.

OP I wouldnt be letting my son go again and yes I feel for the children involved as they will be the ones who suffer most and wont really understand until years gone by

[VINASOL]

Whereas I agree that the OP shouldnt be sending her son again and the mum shouldnt be so flippant about the situation.

I totally disagree about SS being called. It was an unfortunate accident and whereas it could have been avoided it not like the parents themselves were pratting by the water.

Where do we stop if people start reporting accident a child falls down the stairs at a friends mum shouldnt have let them up etc should that be reported.

OP I wouldnt be letting my son go again and yes I feel for the children involved as they will be the ones who suffer most and wont really understand until years gone by

Sorry but I do think it's a little different from falling down the stairs, falling over in a park etc etc. The parents were a 100 yards away; as a parent of a 5 year old, to me that's too far from two little children near open water without any life preservers or anything like that.

Anyway, it is just my opinion and something that I would personally do if it happened to my child. I felt that this was such a serious case of misjudgement that something needed to be recorded.

[Milli147]

OP I wouldnt be letting my son go again and yes I feel for the children involved as they will be the ones who suffer most and wont really understand until years gone by

I would have the other child over to play if they are friends, but refuse to let my child go to theirs. I have done this with my dd, she was invited over to a friends and when I went to pick her up parents had gone out and left the two girls alone in the house with a male lodger. And his 60 a day fag habit.
Don't be afraid to tell them why either, maybe it will bring them to their senses before the unthinkable happens one day.
Hope you and your son are ok x

[Ripeberry]

As said before. There is no reason they can't be friends just always have the playdates at yours.