i think in these circumstances it is often more the parents want to hear/need to hear this than the children.
the child does not want to leave yours as he's having fun, that doesn't mean that he doesn't want to go home ever again. Mum is probably feeding it a bit, oh are you going to be upset when we go to 'x's' house, then he cries, there she has her evidence.
I had a mum who was so anxious and everytime she left her child she would almost cry and say 'don't worry, you'll be ok' in a very shaky/tearful voice, not sounding convincing at all (clearly indicating to child that there was somethign to worry over) hence child took ages to settle in.
I would call a meeting with mum to discuss without the child there. How long has he been with you hon? is he newish? Is he still settling. Has anything happened that might have spooked him (another child/pet etc). If not then it may just be boundary differences i.e. he gets his own way/doesn't have to share at home a lot more maybe?
I would discuss with mum how happy he is with you, show photos, perhaps video him and show these to her to convince her. You could tell her (from my experience) that babies who have been fine for 2 years with a minder can have blips of up to a year at around 2-3 years where they get tearful about being separated from a parent and it is often more about not wanting parent/carer to go rather than being unhappy at being left with yo the childminder
However, at the end of the day if she truly believes he doesn't want to come you are not going to convince her either way.
sending a hug. I'd be feeling the same as you if a parent told me that but you shouldnt'
if you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got
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