Hi minders.
Could do with a rant and maybe some advise.......
I've a 3 year old lad who throws massive tantrums when his dad collects him at the end of the day. He refuses to put his shoes on, and hits and kicks and screams and becomes vile. His dad is useless frankly. Just pleads and pussy foots around.
I've tried to help like saying he can have a sticker when he's got his shoes on etc. that can work sometimes if the stickers are interesting enough. Even tried having him ready for when his dad arrives but he just kicks it all off again as soon as his dad turns up. He's a rebel no doubt but behaves well when he's with me. There just don't seem to be any boundaries or consequences with his dad.
Last night was awful! I refused to give him a sticker as he'd not been helpful at all about going home. I said goodbye and closed the door. He was then outside my house for 40 minutes screaming. His dad just stood there. This little lad's brother also comes to me and was seeming to take some delight in this situation and scooting around him on a scooter making it worse. The dad still did nothing. I kept an eye on things outside my window and just couldn't believe what I was seeing. Finally, the lad's older brother then starts quite brutally ramming his scooter at him while he's stropping on the pavement.
The dad does nothing!!!!!
They finally started to walk down the road after that. It put me off my dinner, I was so upset. A few very firm words and a stern march home and that could have all been over. The guy has no control whatsoever and I felt so sorry for the kids at no-one taking control.
This is the second time it's been this bad. last time I went out and offered to lend the dad a buggy so he could at least get him home, but the dad refused and said they were fine.
I want to tell the boys today that their behaviour was unacceptable. But it wasn't on my time and what can I do? I've tried dropping gentle hints to the dad to help him get them home such as having a reward waiting when they get back and an incentive to go home nicely but he doesn't take any notice really. He's a really nice guy to talk to. Just useless with his kids.
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