hi there I have got my 1st mindee in (just turning6) and she seemed really lovely when we met up, her mom insisted she didnt need a settling in session so now i've got her and she is really winding my 3 1/2 year old up and i really dont know what to do, she is nice when i'm watching but is a mean and spiteful when i'm out the room and is quite sneaky when she thinks you cant see, she's an only child and i dont think she really gets a lot of support at home (as her mom tells me all the bad things about her and another relative doing pick up refered to her as the brat!).
I am seeing traits in my daughter i have never seen before (i got it 1st- being a sentence she'd never put together herself, and she has started hitting and pulling pushing and shouting and i have NEVER seen any of that before from her no matter who we've played with) i dont think i am handling it well and I try my best to stick up for them both equally but its hard to know as the mindee tells tales, lies bare faced to me about whats happened and really cant understand that my dd cant play the same sort of games eg eye spy- as she doesnt know the alphabet properly yet.
I feel like all i have done since she arrived is tell her off what do i need to do, i am finding it hard to warm to her and shouted when she nearly kicked my daughter in the face, i gave a time out explained why it had made me cross gave her a cuddle and carried on then 5 minutes later she was upsetting my daughter again,
she has her own reward chart and its a stretch to find something to give her stars for, i think she needs more love in her life but I cant give it to her as i'm struggling to like her!
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