I am so confused. My DD , who is 3, has had real trouble settling into preschool even though she has been there a year she still cries when I leave her. This has also started a little even when I leave her with her dad!
I am extremely close to her and it has been really upsetting me. She is also an extremely confident child when I am around her, always taking the lead no matter how many and how old the other children are! But when she is in preschool she doent have any confidence at all.
I had a chat with her preschool lady tonight and she said to be brutally honest she thinks it is totally related to the job I do. She childminded for 7 years when her children were young and she thinks it has damaged them beyond mending as they were always pushed out an not given enough attention because we have to be seen to look after the children we are paid to care for to such a high standard!
She also said that it is unfair for my dd to be sent off to preschool while I have fun with other children!
I havent been able to explain the full extent of what she said cause it would take me forever.
My intitial reaction was that this was a load of rubbish, I feel my dd does huge amounts of things that no other child does at home because of my job! She is always doing activities and never ever gets plonked in front of the TV ect! I sit with all the children and draw and read stories. I thought it was just because we are so close and because I look after her so well.
Now I am doubting all this and feel like crying and giving up the job to look after my children properly!
My daughter , 11 is the same, very unconfident and doesnt like leaving me!
Help is my job damaging my children? Do any of you feel this way?
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