Tips on how to keep control when parents collect

[yummymummy]

Although I have been doing this a long time I still find that when some parents collect the children run riot!
They run around showing off and if I try to take control I look like a fishwife! the parents just stand there and do nothing! One in particular will not cooperate with her parents so I have taken to having her coat and shoes on, but they don't just pick her up and go so she runs away and takes them all off again.
It drives me crazy as it seems as if they are a lot of little hooligans! But without their parent's being present they aren't like it.
I am sure it is because their parents are there so I am "not in charge" but it is still my house so it is not the parent's rules.
Has anyone else cracked it? to be honest it is just one in particular but she whips the others all up into a frenzy!!!!

[Tily Bud]

this happens in my house so i try to talk to the parents when the child starts and agree who is going to be in charge , then stick to it - the child usually gets the message

[avril]

I had this problem last wk with the twins I collect from school luckily only once a wk at home time they threw stones at the living window. Their Dad said come boys behave in a very lame manner, I chipped in if the window is damaged your Dad will have a very large bill to pay the twins and Dad just looked at me and the went off home.
I was so annoyed I sat and fumed maybe I should have come on here and vented my anger earlier!!

Avril x

[Heaven Scent]

Put it in your policies that you are in charge until they leave your property and parents should respect that. Put it in bold.

Celine

[Twinkles]

I agree with putting it in your policiy. I have had this problem in the past and said to the child in front of the parent
' Now you know you're not allowed to do that. Just because mummy/daddy is here doesn't mean the rules change.'
Why do parents just stand there and let the kids run riot?

[miffy]

I agree with Twinkles I think you have to be quite clear to both the parents and the child that you are still in charge and your rules count

If the child acts up for the parents either have that child ready for when parent arrives or ask parent to wait outside while you sort out the child.

Good luck

Miffy xx

[manjay]

I agree with putting it in your policiy. I have had this problem in the past and said to the child in front of the parent
' Now you know you're not allowed to do that. Just because mummy/daddy is here doesn't mean the rules change.'
Why do parents just stand there and let the kids run riot?

I agree totally. I make this quite clear with parents when we a talking about behaviour that my rules are gospel in my house no matter who is there. Mine don't have much chance to play up at home time because as soon as the doorbell goes they are ushered into the porch to get shoes and coats on. Parents are aware I need a very quick handover as I usually have plenty of other children left to deal with.

amanda xx

[disney]

i do have this problem as well with some of them , i have one boy who says whens my mum coming then when she does come he runs off also he starts running around the house and goes in the electric unit . and i say why are you going in their you know your not allowed . but he never does this with me only when mum comes but now i have started to get um ready and try to get them all out asap x

[Tatia]

I have a 5 year old who is dreadful when his father comes to collect him. Absolutely dreadful. I just finally starting handing out punishment in front of the dad, like fine, no playstation tomorrow. I feel like all I do is tell him off in front of his father and that's not the image I want him to take away with him because we actually get along really well. I make sure to tell dad how good he has been and how nice the rest of our time has been together.

[sarah707]

I tell the parents that it's my house and my rules - I have a little girl who hides and jumps on the sofa and dad just stands there sort of ineffectually grinning...

Sorry though yummy... I think the answer to your question is NO... we don't have any answers... but at least you know now you're not alone!

[angeldelight]

Yep get it all the time at the door running around the garden touching flowers hanging on the gate - all stuff that they would not do if parent was not there

Paents just stand there

It is annoying so you are def not alone in this

I do tell the kids to stop it now very firm in front of parents and I stop chatting and look at the child - so then the parent does the same most of the time it does work

Hope you get it sorted

Angel xx

[Splish Splosh]

yes. I have one as soon as mum rings the bell she demands food and tries to run off and raid the cupboard, that really winds me up!!!!! WHY OH WHY doesnt she turn up with something for her knowing she does that? Glad to see its not just me that deals with it!!!

[sarah32]

I have the same problem with a 2 year old, shes already when mum comes but runs in the other direction and throws herself on the floor, mum said last time do you want to stay with sarah which i replied no, thats not a option. She does let her get away with it.

I had to tell her off today as mum asked her to put toy down as going and she said no, told her to do as mummy said and she said no to me, gave her a look which seemed to work, mum didnt say a word.

I think both my parents know im in charge until they leave my house.

My 11 month screams when mummy collects him, so much mummy gives him back to me to stop him, dont agree with it but he doesnt understand.

I dont think theres any answer, hopefully they will grow out of it or bribe them when they get older and understand.

[cherry]

I always thought that I had a magic doorbell, the children are well behaved until their parents rings the doorbell and then they turn into little monsters

[Schnakes]

I used to have one who was particularly bad at this (although I still have similar problems with the kids I have now, nothing beat this child!!!).

As soon as her mum was there she turned into the most horrible child in the world!! Having kicking screaming tantrums, being rude, trying to run away, not doing as she was told...I put up with it for a while (I used to think - your kid, your problem, you deal with it, but the mum DIDNT deal with it!!).

In the end she got treated exactly thr way she would have if her mum wasnt there - The mum always looked absolutely horrified that someone dare disipline her child...but FFS, someone had to do it!!!

Sx

[Banana]

Ive got one who as soon as mum or dad arrives pushes all my dvds off the shelf and starts pressing all the buttons on the dvd and vhs players. It drives me barmy. The mum does tell him off though, but ots been going on for about 5 months this scenario - Im at the point that I just have to accept it cos nothing I do gets him to stop it!

x

[Trouble]

i hate this part of childminding and it drives me nuts tomorrow is my worst day and i just take them down when they bounce on the sofa as im sick of asking now but ill only have him for 2 more weeks and 1 week hes not here (ahh what a shame) see youve got me started again now

[Rubybubbles]

must be the day for it today!!

Mum come into the hall, and left the door open, her lo ran off, to which mum pracy danced to get him back saying nothing, so when he got back, I said 'you don;t do that for Me * you shouldn't do it for mummy, to which he started crying and mum giving him a huge hug ffs it took 20 mins today to get him home as he was having a complete meltdown, I could off shook mum ' grab him and get him out'

Phew sorry

[Rubybubbles]

[QUOTE=cherry;82313]I always thought that I had a magic doorbell, the children are well behaved until their parents rings the doorbell and then they turn into little monsters[/QUOTE]



hit the nail on the head there

[emler]

I've got a 5 year old mindee who seems to grow devil horns as soon as his mum arrives to collect him.
Last week he was leaping about on the sofa and mum said nothing! I certainly told him though.

Emler x