Yep I've been there too!!!!
I have a strict rule in my setting that while children are in my home, I handle the discipline whether parents are there or not. I advise parents of this when they start so there is no confusion, and it has always worked very well.
The first couple of times can feel a bit awkward when you are disciplining a child in from of mum or dad, but you find that 99% of the time, they will actually back you up rather than get offended.
I've even brought a child back in from the driveway to sit in time out after he bit his mum when they were leaving!
I had one mindee whose behaviour was appalling when parents arrived and thanks to him I now have a completely new drop off and collection policy.
I now take the children to the door and parent's do not come in anymore.
I have a stairgate across my hall so the other children cannot get out and the one leaving cannot get back in, as the trend seemed to be that they wanted to cause as much damage to each other as soon as a parent arrived!!
At first it seemed a shame that I no longer let parents in, but in the long run, it really was the best thing for my setting and works well. We still have a quick chat but it's all over much quicker and alot less painfully these days
And the parents actually seem to prefer it to which helps.
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