This is my first thread, it may be controversal, so please be gentle
Both Sally and myself go to a particular childminding group and there have been issues with me attending. As the token male it was almost as I was not there. No one would speak to me and even asked Sally questions about me when I was standing next to them
Then whilst arranging a childminders' xmas meal Sally was asked if she wanted to come as I could look after our own children. Needless to say my nearest and dearest told them in no uncertain terms that our children are well able to look after themselves and why was I not asked, the answer was they did not think I would like to be out with a load of women (That's an offer that does notcome along very often
) she would not be going.
I decided that I would not go to the group anymore as I was starting to feel uncomfortable and did not want to get into an argument that was waiting to happen.
The head of the children's center asked Sally why I was not going, as did some of the other minders (I could be nasty & say that they had to keep an eye on their minded children and not get me to did it)
Sally advised her of what the problem was and she was shocked. She called a meeting of the group to cover other issues and apparently mentioned what was happening. Some of the others seemed to understand and some not. I eventually went back to the group after some 6 months to see have things were and I must say they have improved.
I was just woundering if anyone else had encountered this problem where a male at a group is seen with some horror, unease or any other word you want to use.
It is hard enough being accepted by parents, let alone your fellow professionals.
Sorry to rant but had to ask the question.
Mick
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