The parents speak out......

**Minstrel** · 14-08-2008, 09:22 AM

I have just had a quick look on another forum (a sin i know!!!!!) and cant believe the amount of parents on there who just dont get it!!

Only had a brief look and although some of them had appalling stories of the way they or their children had been treated, the others were giving them awful advice!!

The way some of them also talk about the 'great childminders' is equally poor. i know i shouldnt be surprised after having heard many bad tales for your experiences but i read and just got so angry- it was a good job i am not a member or i would have wrote some comments back.

'i dont want to pay my childminder her hols anymore'
eeeeerrrrrrr YOU SIGNED THE CONTRACT SAYING YOU WILL!!!!

'My childminder goes on too many training days'
SHE SOUNDS LIKE AN UP TO DATE AND INFORMED CM

'my cm has informed me she is pregnant and will take 2 months maternity starting in feb' ERR IS THAT ALL!!!!
advice given- sack her with immediate effect, she will be breaking your contract to provide childcare till the end of the school year 2009

I WAS COMPLETELY GOBSMACKED ON THIS LAST ONE!!!!!

**Bushpig** · 14-08-2008, 09:29 AM

What terrible advice, yes!

Is this on mumsnet? I look in there now and again too. Found it before this forum actually, and this one wins hands down

**Minstrel** · 14-08-2008, 09:31 AM

Not mums net no

**emmadines** · 14-08-2008, 09:31 AM

Originally Posted by Minstrel

I have just had a quick look on another forum (a sin i know!!!!!) and cant believe the amount of parents on there who just dont get it!!

Only had a brief look and although some of them had appalling stories of the way they or their children had been treated, the others were giving them awful advice!!

The way some of them also talk about the 'great childminders' is equally poor. i know i shouldnt be surprised after having heard many bad tales for your experiences but i read and just got so angry- it was a good job i am not a member or i would have wrote some comments back.

'i dont want to pay my childminder her hols anymore'
eeeeerrrrrrr YOU SIGNED THE CONTRACT SAYING YOU WILL!!!!

'My childminder goes on too many training days'
SHE SOUNDS LIKE AN UP TO DATE AND INFORMED CM

'my cm has informed me she is pregnant and will take 2 months maternity starting in feb' ERR IS THAT ALL!!!!
advice given- sack her with immediate effect, she will be breaking your contract to provide childcare till the end of the school year 2009

I WAS COMPLETELY GOBSMACKED ON THIS LAST ONE!!!!!

the last ones reply form me would be, what do you want this woman to do?? give birth whilst minding you children. were not in the rice field you know,.

grrrrr what do these ppl want??? blood???

**Pedagog** · 14-08-2008, 10:25 AM

Maybe we should all join this other "forum" and enlighten them.

**mimo** · 14-08-2008, 10:34 AM

I agree with charlotte let us know which one and we will all join and enlighten them all.

**Minstrel** · 14-08-2008, 10:38 AM

I only took out the site name as i realised anyone can read this bit and didnt want to get beaten up!!
should have put it in members only!

**emmadines** · 14-08-2008, 10:42 AM

can you post the link in private area then???? ive looked but cant find it

p.s ive joined lol

**Pedagog** · 14-08-2008, 10:42 AM

Maybe yes, or you could PM us

**sarah707** · 14-08-2008, 10:48 AM

I can move the thread for you but some of the members who are reading and commenting will not be able to see it in full members.

Perhaps giving out more information by pm is a good idea.

I would advise against anyone getting into arguments on forums ... I know of many cases where people deliberately say contentious things to wind other people up. They get some sort of strange pleasure from it... so I never join in because I don't want to give them the satisfaction.

**emmadines** · 14-08-2008, 10:57 AM

Originally Posted by sarahnev707

I can move the thread for you but some of the members who are reading and commenting will not be able to see it in full members.

Perhaps giving out more information by pm is a good idea.

I would advise against anyone getting into arguments on forums ... I know of many cases where people deliberately say contentious things to wind other people up. They get some sort of strange pleasure from it... so I never join in because I don't want to give them the satisfaction.

I agree I have no actual interest in starting arguments but we have a right to put our points of views across. like a fiend of mine has said to me on occations. "some ppl look down on childminders" childminding is a job in its own right is it not?

**Minstrel** · 14-08-2008, 10:57 AM

Thats why i didnt bother joining in. There were already a couple of CM's on there having a good go!

i just couldnt believe the arguements that were going on - nothing like here where everyone is at least civil even if not agreeing!!
There it was a free for all slanging match and not something i want to get involved in.

Simply dont understandwhy some ppl think it all has to go there way- they kept saying 'i've employed her' etc and shes not doing as i say! i thought CM's were self employed and an agreement is reached via contract that both parties stick too. they were changing things as they felt like it.

Hope i dont get one of these parents.

**miffy** · 14-08-2008, 11:02 AM

Originally Posted by sarahnev707

I would advise against anyone getting into arguments on forums ... I know of many cases where people deliberately say contentious things to wind other people up. They get some sort of strange pleasure from it... so I never join in because I don't want to give them the satisfaction.

Good advice Sarah

Miffy xx

**Pedagog** · 14-08-2008, 11:06 AM

I won't start a fight, I just like to have the option of putting people straight were needed.

**emmadines** · 14-08-2008, 11:07 AM

Originally Posted by Newbie

I won't start a fight, I just like to have the option of putting people straight were needed.

sorry it made me giggle, i dont actually know why

**deeb66** · 14-08-2008, 11:29 AM

I agree with Sarah.

As much as you may want to put your point of view across history tells us it will only end up in a them against us situation and could get a little out of hand.

The best way to deal with these sort of people is to ignore them and rise above them and let them get on with their small lives.

**Pedagog** · 14-08-2008, 11:40 AM

I know

, I will be good don't worry.

Actually just made a couple of light hearted posts so far, found nothing yet that others are not handling well on their own.