how to word text without sounding accusing?

**Rickers83** · 13-05-2014, 09:09 AM

One if the lo's bought a little wooden car with him this morning...... Said car is now nowhere to be found
I've sweeped the whole downstairs, in toy boxes, under chairs/cushions etc

On of my schoolies age 4 has a habit if bringing things home from school in his pockets/bags, I don't have him tonight but want to ask mum to check his things tonight

How can I word a text without it sounding like I'm outright accusing him?

**smurfette** · 13-05-2014, 09:14 AM

Start it 'dear all' and just send to her.. Just say 'would everyone mind please just checking Los bags in case the car has dropped in by accident'

**Ripeberry** · 13-05-2014, 09:15 AM

What Murph said

**Kaybeaa** · 13-05-2014, 09:21 AM

I had a very similar situation when our remote control went missing. I had a feeling it was one of my light fingered mindees but didn't want to accuse/assume so just did a general text which I just sent to the one mindees parent.

Remote control turned up in DS toybox ...

**Rickers83** · 13-05-2014, 09:24 AM

Great thanks

Heres hoping its found soon as the child it belongs to's mum is already annoyed today as I've said I cant swap a day in July because its my daughters sports day/fete & that I have to close half day another day in July as my eldest has orthodontist, & the last time I took this lo he screamed in terror the whole time we were there & my poor dd hates going as it is!

**AliceK** · 13-05-2014, 10:27 AM

Originally Posted by Rickers83

Great thanks

Heres hoping its found soon as the child it belongs to's mum is already annoyed today as I've said I cant swap a day in July because its my daughters sports day/fete & that I have to close half day another day in July as my eldest has orthodontist, & the last time I took this lo he screamed in terror the whole time we were there & my poor dd hates going as it is!

I make all parents aware that if they bring toys in from home I accept no responsibility for them. I have had things get lost and I tell parents that said item may turn up at a later date. It's not my fault if they insist on bringing things and parents let them in order for a quiet life. One LO sometimes brings cars, no idea why as I have a box with literally over 100 different cars / vehicles in. I always tell parents it will probably get lost amongst all the others here. Don't feel bad. When my DS went to childminders I didn't let him take toys with him, there is no need.

xxx

**smurfette** · 13-05-2014, 10:31 AM

Originally Posted by AliceK

I make all parents aware that if they bring toys in from home I accept no responsibility for them. I have had things get lost and I tell parents that said item may turn up at a later date. It's not my fault if they insist on bringing things and parents let them in order for a quiet life. One LO sometimes brings cars, no idea why as I have a box with literally over 100 different cars / vehicles in. I always tell parents it will probably get lost amongst all the others here. Don't feel bad. When my DS went to childminders I didn't let him take toys with him, there is no need. xxx

This!!! Don't worry about it, just say it will probably turn up later and you will keep an eye that's all you can do!

**Rubybubbles** · 13-05-2014, 10:42 AM

Originally Posted by Rickers83

Great thanks Heres hoping its found soon as the child it belongs to's mum is already annoyed today as I've said I cant swap a day in July because its my daughters sports day/fete & that I have to close half day another day in July as my eldest has orthodontist, & the last time I took this lo he screamed in terror the whole time we were there & my poor dd hates going as it is!

Tough it's plenty of time for her to sort something else out!

I always take sports day off for my 2! I want to enjoy watching

**Vikki5531** · 13-05-2014, 10:57 AM

Originally Posted by Rubybubbles

Tough it's plenty of time for her to sort something else out! I always take sports day off for my 2! I want to enjoy watching

We're not allowed to watch it at our Daughters school

**Rubybubbles** · 13-05-2014, 12:06 PM

Originally Posted by Vikki5531

We're not allowed to watch it at our Daughters school

thats so sad

On the plus side you won't have dd asking you to run the mums race haha

**wee_elf** · 13-05-2014, 01:56 PM

Tough about sports day, as others have said you have given enough notice and your child comes first in this instance!

**Rickers83** · 14-05-2014, 06:39 AM

The missing car has mysteriously turned up this morning, just casually sitting on the dining room table!!

Glad its back, but also makes me think in going to have to watch everything they touch & be careful what I leave out!