hitting at home, but good as gold here .....

[Rickers83]

I look after a 19 month lo, mum said yesterday that he has been really spiteful, hitting, scratching, pulling hair. & he did it to her the whole time they were here.
she pre warned me this morning that he has cut big brothers lip by grabbing him & is in foul mood

However, i have never seen him do this before yesterday & he has been fine here today, playing with my dd, the odd snatch of a toy but that's it.

thing is I know mum will ask tonight, & I don't want to make her feel it must be her or something they're doing, which is what I'd think if it was my lo

any advise greatly received

[KatieFS]

Have you had them long?

I think you have to be honest with her. They need to identify what is triggering the behaviour and have a consistent way to dealing with unwanted behaviours.

[Rickers83]

I've had them for almost 4 months, this seems to be a very recent thing as was no mention of it last week, & like i say I've never seen it before until yesterday.

just trying to think how i can say... "hes been fine here, good as gold"..... Without making her feel rubbish