who would you put first. mindee or your own child?

**Carolc** · 13-08-2013, 01:05 PM

I have a big problem. My hubby has started a new job and now we don't have anyone to pick up our son drop school. I so a school pick up at a different school, which was fine when hubby was working from home. I asked my sons school if he could wait in the office until i got back from picking up at other school. They have said no. So now i can either get him to wait in the playground or let him come home himself. Or i could give notice to the one i pick up from different school.

What would you do? Xx

**JCrakers** · 13-08-2013, 01:07 PM

Give notice.

My family will always come first

**shortstuff** · 13-08-2013, 01:11 PM

I agree, there is no way my son will ever feel that I will put a mindees happiness and safety ahead of his. He will always be my first priority.

**margaret** · 13-08-2013, 01:23 PM

Originally Posted by Gail Tracey

I agree, there is no way my son will ever feel that I will put a mindees happiness and safety ahead of his. He will always be my first priority.

As above ,my children come first

**Chatterbox Childcare** · 13-08-2013, 01:26 PM

Whilst I agree with the above - how old is your son? Are we talking primary or senior school?

**Nicola Carlyle** · 13-08-2013, 01:26 PM

My children come first in instances like these. I would exhaust all avenues first like you seem to have done as let's face it we are all in business here to make money to pay the bills. If you have looked at all other possibilities then I'm afraid I'd have to agree and say give notice. X

**Chatterbox Childcare** · 13-08-2013, 01:30 PM

Will the other childs school let you pick up late? Is there another minder you can work with who will collect and hold for 5/10 mins? If you hubby was working with you what about an assistant for those hours?

**Tazmin68** · 13-08-2013, 01:30 PM

Again i would give notice unless son was in year 6 where they need to be more independent .
Deb

**Carolc** · 13-08-2013, 01:31 PM

He is almost 6 in primary 2. Just don't like the idea of him being at school in the dark, will be soon with winter coming, thinking ahead. X

**rickysmiths** · 13-08-2013, 01:37 PM

It sounds as if you are in Scotland, do you have a school bus? I have ex mindees who are in Perth area and the school bus picks them up from the end of their drive. The older one started using the bus from day one and the younger one starts school today and will be going on the bus.

**Carolc** · 13-08-2013, 01:41 PM

No our back garden looks onto the school so we are just a 5 min walk to my son's school. It is a 15-20 min walk back from the school i pick up from Xx

**Koala** · 13-08-2013, 01:57 PM

No contest.

I would give notice and pick my son up from school, you don't want him to think mindees come first, because I am sure they don't, you cant be wonder woman and do everything even though we try, I am sure the parents will understand.

**SwanLake** · 13-08-2013, 02:03 PM

Whilst I love my job, my family will always come first. Even if you agreed to your son coming home alone - he is only 6 so I'd be very wary of this no matter how near home it. What will he do in the interim whilst he waiting you to get back? Whilst I don't believe there is any specific law re leaving children alone, if you did and something was to happen to him, not only would you feel awful, SS would no doubt come down on you like a tonne of bricks.

I wouldn't even contemplate it until year 7.

Give notice or see if there is some sort of work around with the mindees x

**FussyElmo** · 13-08-2013, 02:07 PM

No chance of me agreeing to my 6o son walking home alone.

The notice would be already written. Now if he had been in year 6 I may have had a different opinion

**Chatterbox Childcare** · 13-08-2013, 02:13 PM

No chance my children would be walking home on their own at this age, you just don't know who is lurking around the corner. Is there another friend/parent who would walk him for you?

**Carolc** · 13-08-2013, 02:16 PM

I don't want to rely on people, he might forget get has to wait and get upset, or think he has to wait for me and not want to go with friends. Xx

**Tazmin68** · 13-08-2013, 02:17 PM

He is still in infants and at our school they are not allowed off school premises unless with adult . Not even with an older sibling from senior school.
Deb
Now juniors are allowed to go with a sibling from senior school and a year 6 child with a parents letter can make own way.