anyone else feel lonely?

**ziggy** · 13-08-2013, 09:00 AM

I love my job, although not doing schoolies again!

BUT feel a bit lonely at times. Other childminders in my area just stay home and never attend groups or go to the park. I dont like visiting friends with little ones or inviting them here so feel very isolated.

Go to groups 2 mornings a week so get to chat to other adults there but would like to mix with other minders.

oh well just having a moan, thanks for being there

**supermumy** · 13-08-2013, 09:13 AM

Yep feel the same

Other cm Round here rather do there own thing or are very clicky can't win really lol

**Supernanny86** · 13-08-2013, 09:33 AM

Originally Posted by supermumy

Yep feel the same

Other cm Round here rather do there own thing or are very clicky can't win really lol

Same around here, cm and nannies already have clicky groups, I know a few but it is a downside

**Maza** · 13-08-2013, 10:08 AM

Yes, I feel lonely recently. I know what you mean about not wanting to go to other people's houses and taking mindees, I just don't feel comfortable and don't really relax anyway because I'm watching mindees all the time. The stay at home mums meet each other for coffee but I can't drag mindees off for coffee either all afternoon. Sometimes they all meet up and go swimming but I can't do that - too many kids etc. I have started going to Slimming World again one evening a week and I enjoy the adult company there. x

**KatieFS** · 13-08-2013, 10:15 AM

It's a real downside to the job.

I'm taking new babies on nxt week and I know for the first month or so its going to be difficult getting out. I have been going to park and a toddler group which has been lovely for me and the children. So it's going to be hard.
This forum really helps though!

**Npg1** · 13-08-2013, 10:36 AM

Yes I know how you feel. I have 2 19month olds and it can be lonely but I am trying to take them out more and more now as it does me good to get out. I also invite my friends round with their children.

**ziggy** · 13-08-2013, 10:56 AM

Guess this is biggest downside of job, other than difficult parents.

I also go to slimming world and have lots of adult company out of work but would love to meet up with other minders during the day. I used to work in a large day nursery and some days just miss the company.

**kellib** · 13-08-2013, 11:12 AM

I'm lucky in that my auntie is a childminder too so we regularly meet up with her and her mindees.

Sometimes we go to visit my old childminder who has grandchildren the same age as my mindees, as do a few of my friends.

Sometimes my Grandad gets bored so will join us in the park for a chat lol.

After all that I'm quite ready for a day to myself lol

**JCrakers** · 13-08-2013, 11:34 AM

Yes, I feel very lonely, although I have met up with another childminder this morning at the park. She has just registered. I've gone nearly 6yrs not knowing anyone but now have someone to spend time with whilst working

So a trip to the park this morning was lovely rather than me just sitting on a bench watching the children play.
I hate the summer holidays and am making decisions not to work all week next summer. Maybe having Mondays off.

The problem I also have is although Ive lived in this town for 13yrs I've not really made any good friends. I know a huge amount of people to say Hello to in passing and have a natter but only 1 to socialise with so I do struggle at times. It gets me down every now again because I tried hard to make friends when we moved here but it's so difficult.

But then I think about my 2 lovely children, my dh and my friend and know it cant be all that bad

I always come on here which keeps my spirits up. When September comes and I get back into routine with school drop off, toddler groups I shall be feeling much better

**loocyloo** · 13-08-2013, 11:48 AM

I spend alot of the holidays doing things on my own with mindees. I know other minders locally but not to meet up with and although I've suggested it, I've never been taken up on the idea. I do meet with a couple of minders I met on the forum though :-D I do see friends with my LOs but most of my friends don't have LOs!

**hectors house** · 13-08-2013, 12:18 PM

I don't tend to go to childminder groups but just normal toddler groups - sometimes there will be a childminder there I can have a chat with, other than that have a couple of childminders I can go out walking with mindees and dogs or meet up at the park. I never go to other childminders houses with the mindees and rarely visit my friends when minding - all their children have grown up and they are mostly out at work during the day. Sometimes I do feel very lonely thats why the forum is so addictive!

**jazzyjenbo** · 13-08-2013, 01:13 PM

Ohh dear.. All these lonely childminders!! Chin up ladies its not all bad ;-)) any of you in north manchester?? Ur welcome round mine or meet up anytime x x

**supermumy** · 13-08-2013, 02:41 PM

I'm London if any one wants to meet up lol

**kellyskidz!** · 13-08-2013, 03:26 PM

I was told this was a lonely job before I began and it is, but I like it.
I also worked in a nursery for 6 years but with some not very nice people so me time is great now!
I like the fact that I can 'choose' my own workmates, if I don't click with someone I don't have to
It's upsetting to read that others feel lonely, I think it must be because we're all thrown with the sch hols and hopefully spirits will lift come September.
Sending hugs to lonely ones xxxxx

**migimoo** · 13-08-2013, 04:02 PM

Same story here...I only meet up with 1 cm regularly, i know probably 10 others quite well from courses/groups but although they are polite they aren't overly friendly and never seem that keen to meet up.

I don't smell,honest!.....I hope!

I can get lonely and tbh i'm dreading September as all of my big ones are leaving me for school and my oldest mindee will be 26 months so conversation will be even less...ah well,I feel like I talk to myself most of the time anyway so it should make no difference

**Rachel6** · 13-08-2013, 04:06 PM

It's such a shame to hear that so many of you feel lonely,I go to music groups,shops (lots of people stop to chat) story time at the library,more than happy to meet up if you are in Sutton Coldfield x

**watgem** · 13-08-2013, 04:19 PM

yes it can be very lonely, but one of my mums is hoping to register so hopefully I won't be too lonely for long

**greanan** · 13-08-2013, 09:45 PM

It can get lonely but I try and get out everyday and it seems to help

**Supernanny86** · 14-08-2013, 02:46 AM

Originally Posted by greanan

It can get lonely but I try and get out everyday and it seems to help

This is what i do, if i was alone for 10 hours with 2 toddlers all day in the house id go nuts!!

**starschildmind** · 14-08-2013, 05:56 AM

Aww i know what you mean.

ive only been minding for a short while but its not to bad.

I go to my local childrens centre twice a week and chew anybodys ear off on the school run!!! Poor people!!

Also a mummy from my town stareted A fb group called mummys meet up. So we post things on there where we can meet up. With kids during thd day or just adults in the evening x We are going to hatfield forrest tomorrow..

maybe worth an idea. Dont have to just meet up with other cm!!

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