I recently found a small lump in my abdomen which a MRI has shown that is not a fatty lump or cyst and in my GP's words "needs to come out"
I have a specialist appointment on Monday to find out more. At this point it looks like I will have an op, and we are hoping that will be that, however until it's all been done and analysed I can't help but think that possibly I'll need further treatment.
Anyway, my DD is 6.5 and quite mature for her age. Hubby and I have discussed what we will tell her and we were going to be honest and say that Mummy has a small lump in her tummy that the doctors want to take out. If she asks why? we were going to say it's because it makes me uncomfortable. Then if I need further treatment we were going to say that I need to have medicine to make sure it doesn't come back.
However, before all this, we lost a close family friend to cancer earlier this year and DD wanted to know why he was ill and then why he died so we did explain that sometimes lumps can make you poorly and they can grow and spread and stop your body working so well.
My Mum and sister reckon that we shouldn't be so open with her, especially as she has some understanding of such illnesses. I have back problems from time to time so they suggested telling her I'm having an op to sort that out. They feel she is too little to handle such news, especially as my Dad was diagnosed with Leukaemia when we were 10 & 12 my sister went a little nuts.
I'm not comfortable with this as what do we then tell her if I do get ill / need treatment. My Mum says "cross that bridge when you get to it... they will offer you help with that one"
I don't want to upset or stress my little girl. The thought of that breaks my heart but equally she's a bright bunny and needs to be told something.
What do you guys think? I'd appriciate some opinions of people with experience of children as none of my close friends have any.
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