Hi there,
I will try and keep this precise.
8 mth old is dropped at 7am and then i deliver him home at 4pm. Terrible separation anxiety and if not in my line of sight at all times screams the house down. Doesn't sleep in cot, as they carry him around until he sleeps.
I have looked after him for 3 mths.
2 weeks ago i called mum to send him home with temp of 38.3. (first time he had been ill) She thought i was being unreasonable and said i should just give him calpol. I insisted he needed to go home and offered to drop him to dad (as she was working and had the car). He eventually was hospitalised with temp of 41.6 and throat infection the next day.
Came back and all fine.
Last thursday she dropped him and said that he had vomited everywhere the night before and kept her up all through the night. I explained that i couldn't have him due to my policy of sickness and diarrohea. She in no uncertain terms told me that it was food intolerance of something i had fed him and he did not have a bug. Stupidly i caved...
( I know!! Silly me. Anyway he was fast alseep so i popped him in the playroom away from my children. I woke him 45 mins later to give him breakfast to find that he had an awful temperature again and screamed in pain, wouldn't take his milk or breakfast. I phoned mum and said she had to come and get him. She started shouting down the phone at me that it was my fault he was ill as he had caught it here, or at the playgroup we attend on a tuesday morning. She also accused me of food poisoning, and why should she pick him up if he had caught it from me - it was my responsiblity. (no other child in my care has been ill)
When she picked him up she blanked me - wouldn't utter a word. Just grabbed him and left.
I wrote a lovely email explaining about why we have 48 hr policy etc etc, but heard nothing.
last night wrote her another lovely email saying i hoped they had had a wonderful weekend etc etc and was he better and coming today. I got a 1 liner of "x will be attending in the morning".
When she dropped she was obviously still mad and said she had some points to discuss.
She accused me of not being able to prepare and cook food suitable for an 8 mth old as the lumps of onion were too big for him and now he is scared of eating. (SADLY i knew she was lying as i had only said he had baby pasta with tomato sauce - i cooke the jamie oliver slow roasted tomato sauce that doesn't have any onion in it)
She also accused me that that i had made her child ill by taking him to playgroup. She also accused me of stealing her suncream as it was not in her bag, last time we used it was 3 mths ago!
She also accused me of neglect as she said she could hear him screaming in the background. She went on to tell me i needed to get a back bone and refuse children if they were ill.
Today i have texted her to say that we wouldn't attend playgroup as she was so upset by it, and i had the response 'well that's your choice'.
i believe her to be slightly fragile and is having counseling but would you take it? 3 times she has now shouted at me and then dumped her child before driving off.
I charge her £4 per hour which includes all food, snacks, trips, early starts, drop off service 10 miles away etc etc...
i don't know when enough is enough... we haven't been able to go to playgroup today which is devastating for the older ones as they love it sooo much.
What do you think?
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