Originally Posted by
littletreasures
Is she going to be living with them next year or is there a possibility she could find somewhere else.
My daughter is just coming to the end of her 2nd year at uni. Her first year she lived on campus in a flat shared with 6 other students. She hit it off with one girl and they are now sharing a house this year.
The others in the flat were inconsiderate so and so's. Always out till 1 or 2 am and when they came in would be so noisy she was woken up. They would even bang on her door to make sure she was woken or start playing their music at full volume. She complained to the caretakers and they came and had a word saying the flat underneath them had complained so they didn't know it was her. They were so helpful. She couldn't wait to get out of there.
This year she has shared a house with 5 other people. Not her first choice but one of them was her friend from last year. Unfortunately, this has not been good either. It is left to Sam and her friend to take the rubbish out, clean and tidy up. Luckily Sam has the loft room with an ensuite, because you wouldn't like to know what the bathroom and toilet are left like. Her friend has to clean the bath before she even thinks of getting in it. The kitchen is always left in a state and her shelves in the fridge and freezer are always filled with the other students food so leaving no room for Sams.
Next year (her final year) she is moving into a 3 bedroomed house with her friend from this year and another close friend of theirs. They can't wait. They have already talked about cleaning rotas etc. They have the same interests and none go out drinking or have late nights.
Your daughter sounds very strong and as she so wants to be at Uni she will get through this. There is help out there for her. She must let those people know how horrible these girls are being and make sure they realise it is not trivial stuff that she can ignore any more. Get her to talk to the welfare about other options, moving into a different house etc.
Good luck to her, she sounds a strong girl. She is nearly at the end of her first year, which is hard anyway as she has to get used to being away from home and doing things for herself.
I wish you well. Sorry for the long post