Would you give a reference
I had a call today from a social worker asking for a reference for a parent of children that I look after.
The parent has lost her job so is looking to foster children as its good money (this is what she told me)and she is struggling to find another job!
There are a few things that I know and I am not too happy completing a reference unless I give true statements so what do I do as I don't want to complete it to the best of my knowledge and then the parent finds out what I have said.
On several occasions they have said to me on drop off that they couldn't cope having the children all day every day hence the reason they have sent them to nursery and childminders. She sent them to a childminder five days even though she was out of work for a year and not once did she keep them at home.
I don't doubt that she isn't a good mother but I don't believe she can cope with her own children full time so how can she cope looking after other children.
If I say no to a reference she will ask me why so it's I really don't know what to do but I am definitely not telling lies on paper just so she can look after young kids for money and send them to nursery with her own children.