I thought I'd ask your advice before deciding on what action to take.I got a text on Sunday afternoon from a mindee's mum,telling me her boy had the chicken pox.I informed her that she could not bring him back to my setting until all the blisters has scabbed over (as these are the general guidelines) he got back to me again,saying "We'll see,I am sure he'll be perkier in a few days!".I replied,saying (and these are my exact words) "I have to follow the guidelines,and I cannot mind (insert child's name here) until all the blisters has scabbed over as he will still be contageous until then.(other mindee's) mother is as you know pregnant,and should she come in contact with this virus,it could pose a risk to her unborn baby.I am sure you can appreciate this,and I look forward to seein (mindee's name) again when he has recovered from the chickenpox"
Ok,6 more texts followed,and I kept refering to the above message.Then the next day,yesterday,she sent me a message on facebook (!) -we are not friends on there,but obviouly,she found me (she could have called or emailed me).her message went "I am very upset,you are accusing me of not loving my son,and of being a bad person who wants my son to spread his germs that could harm or kill an unborn baby!Maybe I am sensitive,but that is how you made me feel!"
Now,I did only send her the above message,and kept refering to that,so how she could read between the lines like that,I am utterly gobsmacked !
I did send her a reply,asking her how she could possibly misinterpret ""I have to follow the guidelines,and I cannot mind (insert child's name here) until all the blisters has scabbed over as he will still be contageous until then.(other mindee's) mother is as you know pregnant,and should she come in contact with this virus,it could pose a risk to her unborn baby.I am sure you can appreciate this,and I look forward to seein (mindee's name) again when he has recovered from the chickenpox" as me telling her that she does not love her son and that she is a bad mother?
Honestly,I have dealt with some odd people in the past,but this really defies belief! I sen her a reply,asking her how she could possibly misinterpret my words like this,when all I did was telling her that she could not bring her boy back to my setting until he's recovered from the chickenpox.
How would you handle this? I am just sat shaking my head in disbelief here tbh...
I am really not sure if I can continue to have a working relationship with this woman,as I'd feel like I was treading on eggshells all the time,afraid of her reading into everything I say,and hear/see things that are not there...you can't work like that.I feel so stressed (and I am normally as cool as a cucumber) as I really do not know how to handle this situation.Any advice is greatly appreciated
Ps.This lady and her other half are friends of my child's uncle and fiance (which is how they found out about me),and we're all invited to their wedding,so talk about complicated here (may have to stay at home for that one I think!
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