What a horrible start to the day.
I would write mum a letter saying that she can't just turn up early without prior arrangement. Tell her it's against Ofsted/insurance regulations to have a child on the premises before their contracted time - a little white lie maybe, but it often works
As for mindee, set the rules & be firm. It would be great if parents worked with you, but I find they don't very often. You tell them how you're going to tackle things, they make the right noises about doing it at home as well, but they never actually follow through with it
I know people talk about mixed messages if the child has different rules at your house & at home, but from my experience, even really young children soon learn that they might be able to do some things at home (eg. jump on the sofa), but that they can't do it at your house. And just because your a childminder, you shouldn't expect your furniture to get damaged.
Be firm with him, stop him from doing things that you don't want him doing (lift him down, move things away, distract him with something else), then praise him when he's doing something nicely, or when stops doing what you don't want him to do.
If all else fails and you need a couple of minutes breathing space, don't feel bad about strapping him into the buggy for a few mins. Give him a book to look at, a toy to play with, or put some music on for him to listen to. It'll give you both a little while to chill out.
Good luck & I hope your day gets better.
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