sooo mad!!

[Cheeky Chops]

argh!! Im so mad !!! I am still not very well but went into town because I had arranged to meet a parent so that she could pay me the outstanding fees she owes me.

we were due to meet at 10.30, i went to my parents who live near town to wait til we were due to meet so i could wait somewhere warm if she was late. I rang her at 10.45 as she hadnt been in touch and she said she was in durham?! she said she had gone shopping and only just got there so she would be all day, would I be in town later on? I was fuming when she said this. I said no I wouldnt be in town and would have to let her know when I would be home so she could drop off the money. I didnt really know what to say so I needed to get off the phone to think straight!! I was expecting £300 from her and could of really done with getting it this morning so I could get all my bits n bobs and now if she does give it to me later on tonight I will now have to go back into town tomorrow, which is a pain!

I didnt want her to come to the house because she will be bringing the children and last time she came to bring me some money stayed for 2 hours with the children and I feel that when I am not working I shouldnt have to have her and the children over for that long as she expects me to feed the children and look after them as if I was working!! She has now text to say she will be coming later tonight. She doesnt have a very lot of money but yet she has gone shopping in durham and I am concerned she wont pay me what she owes me, although I have warned her that she will get late charges if she doesnt pay.

I am just really annoyed to be honest as she obviously knew she was going to durham and couldnt meet me yet when I rung her last night to check what time we would be meetin she didnt say anything, neither did she contact me today and I went into town especially to meet her and Im not feeling very well either.


thanks for letting me rant!! x x

[angeldelight]

I would be fumming to be honest

Hope you are charging her late fees

Sorry but I would not go and meet her - why should you have to chase her and put yourself out for YOUR money?

I would let her come to the house and yes you are right you have finished and it will be out of hours
So do not invite her in
If you do not like to do that - just say you have family visitors and you are closed for the day so I am sorry I cannot invite you in

She is a cheeky so and so and she is very lucky that you have not lost your temper with her


I hope you get it sorted and I do hope you get paid

Angel xx

Hope you feel better soon

[Schnakes]

What a joke!! I feel your pain, I really do.

Sx

[flora]

oH Cheeky, what a cow!!! some people just have no consideration do they??
Explain to her firmly but politely that on your day off you have better things to do than hang around for someone who is not coming. One of my mums is lovley but very unreliable and often forgets to let me know that the kids are't coming till 10mins after they should be here. I reminded her that I do have a full and busy life and that if I was running around like a headless chuck then I would have less energy to look after her kid when she did need me..

As for the money, make sure you give her clear deadlines/ late payments details or whatever you want and make sure you are again firm but assertive. As others have said in other posts, remind her that you too have bills to pay and you need to count on the money being there when it should be not when she feels like it.

hope you feel better soon xx

[sarah707]

Like Angel says - she should come to the house, pay you and leave... no invites in... it's your money, you've earned it.

If this woman sent her child to a nursery, does she think the manager would go and meet her in town when it's billing time? Too much to ask of you

[Cheeky Chops]

well she pays me weekly as this is when she gets tax credits and the government pay the whole amount, so its not like anything is even coming out of her pocket!! I have been slack with her deadline in Jan as she was a new parent and was still sorting out the tax credit and said that she wouldnt get it til 3 weeks, do they do this?!! so I let it go for 3 weeks until she said she started receiving the benefit, I have now informed her that she has until friday to pay the outstanding balance or I will add late charges. she hasnt been too bad with paying so far, just claiming for more than I am chargin her etc etc.

It just annoys me that she doesnt pay me what she owes but its ok for her to go on mega spending sprees and spend £100 on clothes at a time and all sorts of stuff she doesnt really need, she often brags about what she has been buying and always leaves bank statements and receipts in the carrier bags she gives me that have babies milk in. I feel like my nose is being rubbed into it!

grrr

[angeldelight]

I had a new parent not long ago and the tax credits were slow and it did take 3 weeks to sort her money out

She still had to pay me though - she did hint a few times - but sorry to sound harsh but it is not my problem
She paid me and just kept the tax credits when it came through

I would tell her that if she does not you then will have to suspend the minding until she does pay

No fees - no childminding

Fair is fair it is your business

Angel xx

[Mollymop]

How dare she! If she owes you money you should be her first priority! Ohhh it makes me soooooo mad how a lot of childminders get used, it seems to be happening to everyone on here.

I hope you get your money later.
If you are worried about her coming in, make up an excuse, like, I am getting tea ready, or something and don't let her over the door step.

Don't let her mess you around again.

[Cheeky Chops]

yeah hubby is working late he thinks tonight too so I will have less of an excuse and she will probably want to stay !! but I am gunna try the im going out or making tea line and see what happens argh!! x x x