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[Minstrel]

This is so awful to hear. I'm sorry i'm not able to help with any experience but love and prayers go to your and mindees and families xxx

[deeb66]

Like many others I am afraid I am not able to help.

I know that I am still struggling after loosing my mum last year and I am 42!.....

Goodness knows how you help children of that age cope and come to terms with this.

Sending lots of love & hugs

Dee
xxx

[jellytot]

hi sending lots of love and hugs to all affected by this awful loss.

i dont know if this has been said but when my dad died i found a fantastic charity called winstons wish. they had fantastic ideas for the children to help with their greif. they are aimed at chldren and will have some really nice things for you to do with the 5yr old.

[childmind04]

No ideas sorry but wanted to let you know i am thinking of you and the family involved, hope you all get the support you need to help you through this awful time

Susan
xx

[ruby]

this is terrible haven't been in this situation so can't offer any advise i am afraid but wanted you to know that you and the family will be in our prayers


cathy

[tulip0803]

I am very sorry for everyone involved in this really tragic time.

As Claire said http://www.winstonswish.org.uk/

Is great they have info for parents and carers which may help and a helpline to ring

I hope they all get the help they will obviously need X

[hello kitty]

What a terribly sad and shocking thing to happen. I feel truly sorry for all involved. At least with the children continuing to go to the minder there is some semblance of a routine which must be a comfort for them.

Thinking of you all at this sad time. xx

[kez]

im very sorry to hear this news x x x those poor children, i have never been in this situation, but all you can do is be there for support it will mean more to them now then anything, Again ask the ather if she he has explained to the older child??? and ask the older children if they want to talk about there feeling, maybe draw how they are feeling as its better to let there emotions out, I hope you l the best in this situation x x x my thought are with you and the family x x x

[Hebs]

My friend was killed by a drunk driver last year (along wiht her partner and her 2 very young sons) however her 7 year old son survived the crash (you might remember this being all over the news).
He is living with his grandparents how said the best thing for him was to keep his daily routine and answer his questions truthfully.
he still (and always will) miss his mum and brothers but it does get easier,

big hugs to you all

[haribo]

thank you all so much it is truly humbling to see all your replies, i hardly ever post but read everything on here and the support is tremendous. i only look after the 17 month old , the 5 yr old goes to school and nan picks him up. ive minded the baby since she was 7 months old in fact it was a year to the day on monday that we started. she is amazing,we have a very special bond anyway and since the accident on monday shes been here everyday, just me ad her as my other full time mum wanted to give me time to help in any way i am needed. to be honest she is fine but sometimes i see a look on her face and she goes very still and i know she is thinking of mum she must just be wondering where the heck she is, then she smiles and hugs me really tight. she fel asleep on me just now ad shes lying next to me here so i grabbed the chance to come on here. the little boy is in school now and dad said he is really proud of how hes been , he knows she isnt coming back(as much as he can understand at least ,and he tells people that its very sad but it wll get better,hes a clever little lad and dad and family are really close so hopefully they will get through it together. i was very close to mum shes the most supportive mum i ever minded for, very considerate thats why when it got past her usual time i did begin to wonder,but you dont think for a minute that its going to happen. like i said to sarah,only fellow minders would understand really as were in such a unique situation with our families. thanks for listening it really helped to let you all know, although i am all too aware that its upsetting to hear about it even not knowing the family x love to you all and thanks i will let you know how everyone is getting on x

[cherry]

Oh love, my heart goes out to you.

I can't give any advice but just wanted to say that the family are very lucky that you are there for them and of course we will be here for you.

Sending you hugs

[ajs]

i've had a rubbish day but am sitting here crying at this

i hope you are ok haribo take care of yourself too

[LOOPYLISA]

Im lost for words, how very sad, just wanted to send lots of love x

[mrsbumbles]

I am sitting here with tears running down my face.

I cannot put in words how sad i feel for this young family.

I hope everyone can remain strong for the children, you and the family will be in my thoughts at this sad time.

Its really does make you think about the strong connections we make with our mindees and their families, and how they become like an extended family members

Be strong, big hugs xxxxxx

[kiddiwinks]

How sad, don't really know what to say but My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

[manjay]

I can not even begin to imagine what you and the family must be going through. I would just say carry on doing what you are doing. The baby is obviously very comfartable with you and you will be helping the family more than you will ever know.

My heart goes out to all involved xx

[LittleMissSparkles]

lots of love been sent you way Haribo xxxx

[haribo]

i didnt want to make anyone cry, thats why i hesitated to post but the support is amazing,i can almost feel the hugs. the baby is still fast asleep next to me,she is beautiful and mum was so proud of the two of them and a wonderful mum. i feel overwelmed almost by the fact that im here caring for her baby and she cant be . i know you will all know better than anyone who isnt a childminder how that feels .thanks so much for listening xx

[Mollymop]

HAribo - we are all here for you hun. Lots of love and kisses and don't feel too upset about looking after the children when mum can't - as mum choose you to look after them and that you care and love them.

[emler]

So sorry to hear your news Haribo. The family are in my thoughts & prayers & of course sending love & hugs to you xx