Originally Posted by
watford wizz
I would say it's anxiety not revenge, all sounds very stressful.
Producing a pooh can be very frightening for a young child. We tend whilst they are in nappies especially disposable ones to give out a lot of negativity about poo, verbal and body language and they rarely get to see what they have produced.
I would also say by the age of 3 he has become accustomed to being dirty/wet this is safe and secure for him.
I have 3, 1.5 - 2 year olds (when they begin to notice what their bodies are doing and able to control it) and we are busy doing pre-potty training, potties to play with, sit on in clothes with a book, stories about using the potty, playing with pants, putting them on teddy etc, learning to wash our hands, making nappy changes verbal communication positive, putting poo in toilet from nappy so the can see it, helping to flush.
Parents also need to "be ready" yes it takes time, effort, patience and can be messy and doesn't come "ready made" instant. I'm guessing these parents may also feel pressured that he needs to be clean and dry for nursery?
Need to remove the pressure from the child, this can cause serious problems. Praise the good and ignore the bad( don't make a big fuss). This also stops older children using messing as a way of getting attention, as long as he's getting plenty of attention at other times.
You all need to agree what and how you are going to move forward together. Being consistent.
Putting back in nappies will just confuse the little chap and he might get the message that he doesn't really have to do it because he will just be put back in a nappy.
Letting him choose some special pants that he will want to keep clean and dry.
No one way will suit all children but some of this might help xx
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