I have had a little boy (17months) who comes to me from 1 to 4.30 every day. I knew it wasn't going to be easy as mum told me that he has never been left with anybody except his nan. I did explain to her on sign up that if a child doesn't settle after a month or so then I will end contracts due to having one for seven months that didn't settle and having a very bad experience.
Anyway, I as expected he didn't settle too good, sobbed from the time mum left, wouldn't sit on my knee for a cuddle, wouldn't join in play, won't sit at a table to eat or crafts. He gets his bag and stands at the door.
Two weeks later he starts to get better. Still cries when mum leaves and will play but as he is playing he is whining like he is telling me something as he is pointing to the door and tears roll down his face every now and then.by the end of the third week he had a really lovely day, we went to the park so what I have discovered is that he is ok if we go out in the buggy which ime not prepared to do all the time as we have plans.
Anyway, yesterday was a nightmare again, he cried from the moment his mum left, wouldn't join in again, he just whined all afternoon, he wasn't sobbing just moaning in a really annoying voice and lots of tears. To be honest it drove me up the wall in the end as I couldn't concentrate on the other kids and I just thought aaaaahhh.
When nan came to pick him up she could tell from his eyes that he had been crying all afternoon. I told her about the moaning/crying standing at the door thing and she said he does this at hers and at home too and she doesn't have an answer.
So now I don't know what to do because I thought it was just a settling issue and we would hopefully get over it. I was even willing to do another month as I had faith but it sounds like it's a problem all the time. I seriously can't deal with this again every day. It really does stress me out and makes me hate this job. Should I tell mum that if it's happening at home this isn't going to work or should I wait a bit longer. Thanks x
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