The fb page...

**butterfly** · 12-07-2013, 11:42 AM

I do wonder if on Facebook people change the way they think before posting. I think we're so used to be able to post a quick comment on a fb status that people type and send before really thinking about what they've put. When I come onto the forum I come with a different frame of mind - that of getting advice and supporting other childminders. I think carefully before posting - whether it would offend anyone or whether it is actually helpful to respond and whether I can bring a different or useful perspective to an issue.

I decided to take myself off the fb page mainly because it was clogging up my news feed and I feel that fb is social and the forum is work. I come onto the forum when i'm in 'work-mode' and want to talk about work things. I go onto fb to chill and relax and catch up with friends so I see them differently.

**WibbleWobble** · 12-07-2013, 11:58 AM

I said the b word on a post ... I apologise. But I am not a troll, fol der re doll

Wibble the non troll x

**supermumy** · 12-07-2013, 11:59 AM

Originally Posted by WibbleWobble

I said the b word on a post ... I apologise. But I am not a troll, fol der re doll

Wibble the non troll x

Oh no u should be punished! No wine tonight for u!

**ziggy** · 12-07-2013, 12:13 PM

Originally Posted by MTK007

You would be surprised (or maybe not!) at some of the things we delete. You can obviously see the person's real name and then they go and talk about their minded children or in a way that makes them identifiable, or they post pictures of them. We cannot vet every person but we can make a judgment on individuals and remove them if they are aren't respecting the rules of the group.

my parents dont know i use this site and i dont want them to know

, it is place i know i can come and have a moan to others who will understand. if they see i use the facebook page they may then come on here

**sarah707** · 12-07-2013, 01:21 PM

I am sure there are a few parents - and we have representatives from Pacey and Ukcma - and of course any post can be copied and sent to anyone.

But if people are respectful and responsible about what they post it shouldn't matter who can read it!!

I sent a member a message yesterday - just to let you know I am deleting your post because ...

Her message back - oh no! I wouldn't want parents to read it! I didn't think...

We are doing our best - we are dealing with problems as we see them - we can't be there all the time!

Members have to take responsibility for their posts and think before they type!! xx

**ziggy** · 12-07-2013, 01:23 PM

my concern is that if they see i use site's facebook page they will then find this site and see my complaints, requests for advice etc.

**hectors house** · 12-07-2013, 02:18 PM

Originally Posted by ziggy

my concern is that if they see i use site's facebook page they will then find this site and see my complaints, requests for advice etc.

I guess then we need to put anything that is confidential in the "Green members only" section - then blocking parents as well as childminders who haven't got to the 300+ posts.

**Memina** · 12-07-2013, 03:10 PM

Originally Posted by hectors house

I guess then we need to put anything that is confidential in the "Green members only" section - then blocking parents as well as childminders who haven't got to the 300+ posts.

Can we do that after I reach 300 please after 4 years im almost there lol.

Simona · 12-07-2013, 03:30 PM

Originally Posted by sarah707

I am sure there are a few parents - and we have representatives from Pacey and Ukcma - and of course any post can be copied and sent to anyone.

But if people are respectful and responsible about what they post it shouldn't matter who can read it!!

I sent a member a message yesterday - just to let you know I am deleting your post because ...

Her message back - oh no! I wouldn't want parents to read it! I didn't think...

We are doing our best - we are dealing with problems as we see them - we can't be there all the time!

Members have to take responsibility for their posts and think before they type!! xx

To troll or not to troll? Are these 'trollers' nasty and up to mischief and switch from Jackill to Hyde? or as referred in Norse folklore they are: demons?? not an appealing label to have
A troll is also a supernatural creature living in caves or mountains and can be either a dwarf or a giant...whatever I would say 'exterminate' or use Bunyip method!!

As if we didn't have enough to deal with at present...feel sorry for those who have to patrol the 'trolls' on Facebook!

**Petshrinklj** · 12-07-2013, 03:55 PM

I'm a member if Facebook group. I'm not on there very often though so haven't noticed any arguments. Feel like I've missed out now lol.

**leeanne910** · 12-07-2013, 04:25 PM

Im on the fb group. I dont use it much. Is enjoy seeing good advice and pics and if i come across anything such as i think i found some effective learning pdfs that i loved and used and wanted to share. But people should be going on there thinking "anything i write anyone can see and bite me on the bum!" So i just ignore the sillyness....its up to them...if they cant use fbook appropriately then im sure some parents of theirs or people they network with will be making judgements

**Becci26** · 12-07-2013, 04:46 PM

Will pop back on and reply properly a bit later once I have a full tummy and a less weary brain haha!
Lots of interesting posts, have been following through the day but not been able to reply as its been a funny old day!
I have however made the decision to (for the time being anyway) leave both the childminding groups on fb as they are not for me.... :-(

**chriss** · 12-07-2013, 05:53 PM

Just read a post on FB from a cm and the child can obviously be identified as I clicked on her name and of course it sent me straight to her page. At least on here we are anonymous to a certain extent.

Would not be happy if I was a parent and saw my childs cm discussing them in such a public place

**WibbleWobble** · 12-07-2013, 06:48 PM

Originally Posted by chriss

Just read a post on FB from a cm and the child can obviously be identified as I clicked on her name and of course it sent me straight to her page. At least on here we are anonymous to a certain extent.

Would not be happy if I was a parent and saw my childs cm discussing them in such a public place

I have a fb profile which has nothing to do with work. I rarely mention even being a cm. I do link to stuff like petitions but I don't mention names of children unless the parent posts something with child's name but them it will be just their initial. I am friends with all my parents but I have had their kids for over 3 years some of them. I have fab relationships with them. And an example of this is I have had my bank account hacked into and £500 taken. I have posted this and within 5 mins most of my patents have text me to say they will pay tomorrow in cash ( two weeks early) if I need the money.
And those who really know me will know I don't even use my real name on Facebook.

Wibble incognito xxx

**Bumble Beez** · 12-07-2013, 06:57 PM

Not a fan of FB...was on there a while ago but after numerous comments from people who I suspect were just stirring or wanting to create trouble (and a lot of pleading from by DH) I came off and have never looked back.
I do at times miss some of the groups like the local for sale groups and the local minding group...but there is always eBay and I've got everyone's number who I need too.

Sarah x

**marnieb** · 12-07-2013, 08:23 PM

Same as you mighty Wibble - my FB page is mine, I am only friends on there with 1 parent I mind for as we were friends before I had her children, I so not mention minding or anything connected to it. I am very surprised about the posts on the cm groups, when I said I saw another cm over minding 90% of the replies were actually in her favour!!

**Daisy De** · 12-07-2013, 09:15 PM

I'm on FB but never ever mention anything about children or childminding, its purely for my friends/relatives and for me to find out what they are all up to.

I also play Candy Crush, Song Pop and Words with Friends

**FussyElmo** · 12-07-2013, 09:28 PM

Originally Posted by Daisy De

I'm on FB but never ever mention anything about children or childminding, its purely for my friends/relatives and for me to find out what they are all up to.

I also play Candy Crush, Song Pop and Words with Friends

Totally agree.

Tonight I have taken my children and my mindee to the school disco. Now I wasn't working and mindee stayed for tea and came to the disco else she would have had to miss. Now I have photos of her but they have been sent to mum via email because I cant bring myself to post the photos. Now if they want to tag me that's ok but I wont

**Kirstylob** · 12-07-2013, 10:18 PM

Originally Posted by hectors house

I guess then we need to put anything that is confidential in the "Green members only" section - then blocking parents as well as childminders who haven't got to the 300+ posts.

I agree to a point but I'm not quite at the 300 posts post yet so I could potentially miss out on lots of valuable advice if this happened. And surely its the newer minders who tend to need and/or ask for advice and they wouldn't then be able to either.
Is there anyway that the members area could be made just for Childminders- no parents allowed?!!

**Kiddleywinks** · 12-07-2013, 10:59 PM

I don't have any parents on my personal FB, as it's for family and friends, and the odd game.
I rarely post about work on there as I do try hard to keep my work and personal life separate as much as possible.
When I started minding, I changed my profile pics and settings so that parents don't know if it IS me so they can't add me either.

I ended up creating another profile on facebook due to all the different sources of information over MGC so linked that to my forum name so I can now comment over work related facebook and still not be identified. I don't have any pictures on there. Initially I did feel guilty about that, lets face it, we like to know who we are talking to visually, but at the same time, I wouldn't want parents to take offence to anything I said in a professional capacity.

I made a personal comment on my personal profile this week, that I definitely wouldn't want anyone that didn't truly know me as a person, like my family and friends of many many years do, seeing that as I'd probably be reported to Ofsted!

Work is work, personal life is private

Wibble! You mean your name isn't really Wibble?!! I'm shocked! You had me fooled