oh that is a tough one, sounds like serious separation anxiety from mum and from you as primary carer when she is with you.
You WERE able to comfort her initially so that is a good sign. I think it is doable, depends how many other children you have to worry about - it will be hard work.
I had 2 like this (though didn't make themselves sick) but screamed the place down unless held. I sat on floor with them lots, spoke to them lots and when I moved I told them before I moved. Still provoked lots of screaming initially and took say 4-6 weeks with both of them. It was hard. I won't pretend I didn't have lots of tears, headache tablets and wine during that period but it's worth it = they are both very confident and independent now.
I would ask mum to do more visits WITH the child if possible so she gets used to being at yours with mum, then get mum to pop out for a short while, then a longer period. See if you can find out what distracts her and initially if you need to go wash your hands take her with you and pop her right next to you on teh floor - she'll still scream probably but at least she will be reassured by seeing you.
Good luck honey
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