DO NOT SHOUT AT ME

[ajs]

i know what most of you are going to say BUT please don't shout i just want your opinions

i started with e in sept working wed thurs and fri 29 hours a week no problem
grandma had her mon and tues

in april mum asked me if i would have e full time for june as grandma was away for much of it no problem so far

in June mum was promoted at work and asked me if i would start full time with e
i said yes and then mum asked if we could work out a discount as i would be working 49 hours with her @ £3.75 an hour and was there a full time discount on offer
well this month i offered her 5% which took her bill down to £800 this month.
i am happy with that really as i do agree a full time place is a lot of money but it's also a lot of hard work for me too ( i think someone posted yesterday about if we were generous to our parents)

anyway i woke up this morning to an email asking me if e goes full time permannetly will i offer her 2 floating days (that she amy or may not use as e can go to grandmas) a month which if she doesn't use will be £75 less money for me
i replied that i can do one but not both so if i offer the floating days i cannot offer the discount too.

what do you think, am i being petty, would you offer the discount of about 5% and give her the option of two unpaid days off a month bearing in mind we are going into a recession, and i would still be earning about £700 - £750 from one child a month or should i just offer one not the other or would you offer no discount or floating days and risk losing the child to nursery

[barbarella68]

Must admit I haven't heard of floater days,I wouldn't do this

[Monkey1]

I think shes pushing her luck babe x

[ajs]

i don't know if there is a proper name for what she wants but she called them floater days
what she means is that i have e full time but if grandma wants to have her 2 days a month then i wouldn't be paid for them, it's effectively a discount but not every month

i know i should say no really but am i biting off my nose if i lose her which i may well do as mum has said a number of times that the nurseries are cheaper
although how she knows i've no idea as she hasn't even put e's name down for proper nursery yet and she starts in a year

[donnagwynne]

Wow mandy,

i would love to be earning that much from one child!!!!!

does the mum have to find all of the money for e's childcare or do you think that she gets help from working families tax thingybob????

do you like caring for e? could you replace her easily if she left you?

it sounds like e's mum may be struggling and grandma still wants to be involved. I would be tempted to bite the bullet and be as flexible as possible, it may not be forever and you may get your days back in the end any
way.

love Donna

[ajs]

Wow mandy,

i would love to be earning that much from one child!!!!!

does the mum have to find all of the money for e's childcare or do you think that she gets help from working families tax thingybob???? no she finds it herself they are not eligible
do you like caring for e? could you replace her easily if she left you? yes i do love her but she's hard work and no i wouldn't easily replace her, i have had a few calls but not for those hours

it sounds like e's mum may be struggling and grandma still wants to be involved. I would be tempted to bite the bullet and be as flexible as possible, it may not be forever and you may get your days back in the end any
way.
love Donna

i agree and that's why i am asking what others would do it's a lot of money to lose if she takes e away from me

[sarah707]

I think she's pushing it as well ...

Don't do anything that will leave you feeling resentful in a few months time!

[wendywu]

If you do undertake this, and i would not consider it. Do it set days a month or you will not know where you are. She could mess you about at the last moment. Or say she has to give you at least 24 hours notice.

[mrsb]

Personally I would agree to 2 unpaid days per month, if nothing else it would give me time for housework etc

seriously though, I'd be happy to have 2 days unpaid per month if I was earning that amount each month

[marian]

Hi

Would the 'cheaper' nurseries offer 'floater days'?
I bet they wouldn't.

Marian

[Twinkles]

I think she's pushing her luck. She's lucky that you were kind enough to give her a discount in the first place. No I'd say either discount or two floating days , she can't have it all her way.

[Pudding Girl]

thing is these floating days would have to surely be booked solely for her use anyway as otherwise you can't fill them? no I would say shehas discount and you fit her into these floating days if you can.

[Kelly]

Given the hours you will be clocking up each month, I would agree to the 2 days, for my own sanity as much as anything else. It would be quite nice to have a couple of days off each month. I would say that I could not offer the discount + 2 floater days. I would offer discount + 1 floater day, 2 floater days or discount.

Good luck

Kelly

[angeldelight]

She is pushing her luck and you know it Mandy

Its up to you what YOU want to do at the end of the day

Good luck whatever you decide

Angel xx

[foxy lady]

she is paying quite alot for one child its good money!!!
BUT you have to do what you think is right,
good luck with whatever you decide

[venus89]

What about half price for the floater day if she takes them?

[charleyfarley]

When I took O on full time I took a pay drop as I'd had no interest at all and was down to 1 part timer. I felt at the time it was either drop my fees or lose lo.

It paid off for me as she signed there and then and then put my money up in April to what it should have been anyway.

I know it's not the same situation but you need to do what's right for you.

She is already getting a discount so is pushing her luck asking for the 2 days as well.

I would let her have one or the other but then it's not my decision to make.

Good luck with deciding what to do.

Carol xx

[avril]

What about half price for the floater day if she takes them?

That's a good compromise but don't offer the 5% discount as well
She knew how much before agreeing to you having the child in the first place but yes I agree with above half fee but fix the days off so you know were you are working!

Hope it all works out for you.

[jmoff]

Well it is a lot of money, but maybe she could use childcare vouchers?

Not sure, mandy, she is pushing her luck...i dont think i would offer both floater days and discount!

good luck!
Jx

[wendywu]

It is only the average wage per full time child in my area. It is also the average amount of hours for a full timer.

£4.00 per hour for full time is the cheaper end of the market down here.