help, with childs progress deteriorating

[dilew]

i have a child who is nearly three, she was working within the development goal of 30-50 in making relationships however, since the child she was social with has left to go to school, she no longer interacts with any child. unless it is adult supported ( a lot). it has become worse since we had a new child start (14 months). it has become very clear that she has a anxiety of babies especially if they cry and she then becomes inconsolable with what looks like fear. myself and parents have been working on this and we have done a lots of emotional work. this has been a little upsetting for parents (and not sure if they think i am making a bigger deal than needed). however when filing in her learning journey i have found in making relationships she is now working within 8-20. she doesn't interact with any other the other children in my setting or when we go to toddler groups etc. all interaction with others seems forced i.e when we play group games, but she shows no interest. she loves mine and her parents company and will only now play when i do. i have found her development in this area slowly getting worse no matter what i do. however parents have found it hard to deal with the fact she has this fear/anxiety of babies, and we have been working on this for a while, (parent just say she is a sensitive soul)
so my question is , how do i report to parents that her development has gone down so much? . they are very interactive with her care and constantly look at her learning journey (it is online) but i think it will look so bad for them to see this. how would you discus this with parents and how can i record it in her lj as she has already completed this area.

thanks

[shortstuff]

Im so sorry to hear that its so tough for you at the moment. Have you shown the parents your eyo at all? Maybe sit down with them and talk ot through openly and let them know why you are concerned.

Other than that i don't know what to suggest, sorry.

[dilew]

I have them all on-line so they have full access to them, so i have made paper copies at the min until i can discuss it with them as i dont want them to just see it without an explanation
also mum has just found out she is pregnant, so working on getting over the baby phobia is needed
also the little one is very intelligent and when we discuss stuff she full understands but can not carry things out in action. i.e we have dicussed why babies cry and she totally understands but as soon as she hears or even if she thinks they are going to cry she just gets so upset and just keeps saying 'i dont want to cry @ over and over . we keep saying it is fine to cry and she says ok and then says it again . i think this shows that she knows there is no need to cry but just cant stop herself. it is heart braking to see. we have tried lots of different approaches to help her. so mum and dad are finding this hard to accecpt so finding it hard to tell them there is more things where she needs help , they are so lovely and understanding and she is an only child. but they socialise every weekend with friends , but their children are older i.e 10 + so this little loves them but she doesn't like 3 and under
also it is hard to record in a positive way things she doesn't do .

[Chatterbox Childcare]

There must be an underlying reason for this, something happened somewhere. What have nursery said?

If the noise is upsetting her maybe having her ears checked will help but from the sounds of it you will need some professional help so when talking to mum maybe suggest that you ask your development worker and go from there

[dilew]

its not loud noises in general as my house can be very loud and other loud noises dont bother her , it is certain noises , babies crying is the worst , hand dryers , men with low voices (thats from mum ) . her hearing is fine, i have emailed my do but she is away from the office again !! she dosn't go to nursery yet. when she was younger and she saw a baby she would say they are naughty. but after work on socialising with babies she will be in the same room but anxiously wait for them to cry, even if they are happy playing. she has already told us that her unborn brother/sister will not cry as she will feed it milk lol. but before she used to play with a little girl who started very quiet, but grew in confidence and now goes to school however instead of her own confidence getting better it got worse when she left and the other little girl who is the same age who attends, she has no interest in. and as for the 14 month old , she just watches her in fear constantly. we play games to help her play together like ball and stuff but she will only play if i am . also this has been going on a while (playing these games ) and there is no progress , she appears to just tolerate it rather than enjoy it