just needed a bit of reasurance that i have done the right thing, i have been watching 2 children for 2 weeks now, i did have a gut feeling from the start not to take them because i met the mum one day at nursery(my 4yr old and her son go to same nursery)and she had a black eye, this is when she asked if i would childmind her boys and i said yes on the agreement that her 'x' partner would not collect them from my house as i didnt want that sort of man around myself or my kids. anyway the soft touch that i am believed her when she said that they had split and things were ok between them now and could he collect them and i said ok.
anyway to cut a long story short i collected the boys from school 2 days ago and they started to tell me that mummy was getting pulled up the stairs by her hair by daddy then he flung her down the outside stairs and that is why she has lots of bruises, my wee son heard everything they were saying and i dont want him to hear this sort of stuff. i told her we had to call it a day as i was scared he (her x)would maybe turn up at my door in a rage and i cant risk that with children in the house.
i feel i have let her down, but i know i done the right thing.

I used to do short term social services minding many years ago and saw some awful cases.

I gave up in the end - it was hard on everyone.

Ultimately you have to put yourself and your family first.

You have to do what is right for you and your family

Dont feel bad for doing that

Hope this lady gets some help in the future for herself and her children

Angel xx

Hi

I just wanted to say you absolutly did the right thing, you have to put your own family and other mindees first.

I grew up with an abusive stepdad (thankfully my mum has now left him) but i always said id never let my children (when i have them) be around him and he would never be welcome in my own home. I now have a friend who husband isnt the nicest and wont have him in my house, i just wont put myself or anyone/animals in my home in a vulnerable position.

I do know how hard it is though, i always wish i could help people more.

Nic x