Morning Guys could really do with some advice I am really tired and stressed i am so far behind on everything
including housework and paperwork I just do not know how to turn things around I start work at 6.30am at the moment and work through until 6pm at night my
kids are all lazy teenagers and my husband to be honest isn't being much help any advice would be appreciated to be honest I am feeling pretty useless right now.

Hi,

I would say try not to be so hard on yourself I don't think it is you that is useless at all it sounds like you are holding it all together, so am sending a big hug.

In terms of housework and paperwork I would say try and prioritise what you need to do, write a list, I know it can be scary, but then when you have done something mark it off it always helps me feel like I am making some progress when I am up to my neck in it. Try doing things like sitting in with the children whilst they are playing to do their books as it means you can observe and write up at the same time.

Talk to your family and get them to agree to do a couple of things each so that they are at least taking a tiny bit of the load, even if it is just taking their things to their bedroom or clearing the pots off the table. Any help is better than none.

Hope that helps, chin up you are doing brilliantly

Sam xx

Think the above is good advice. I find if I am a bit behind I make a list and really break it down into small bits ie not just update obs but into individual children so that you can actually achieve something even in a few minutes as it is easy to get demoralised when tackling big things.

As for the teenagers, I know what you mean! My 14 year old son still calls me to dry his hair after a shower :eek:. I sat them down, told them how their selfishness/laziness was making me feel, put a white board upstairs with basic tasks they need to do each day and restrictions placed on computer/games times if they weren't done. It works to some extent and I get more support from them now. Shame you can't do the same with husbands - just need to kick them up the bum occasionally!

Chuck in some washing during nap time, tidy up a bit whilst they are eating/playing quietly to lighten the load a bit and try to take some time out for yourself. I know it is hard but even if I can lock myself in the bathroom for half an hour for a soak in the bath I feel ready to tackle things with a renewed vigour.

If you are getting so far behind with things that you are stressed and upset by them then I think you are probably trying too hard to do too much :(

Do you have a local support childminder or mentor you can go through a few things with to see if they can make it more doable for you?

Hugs x