Hi everyone, ive got 3 children that i mind from the same family, mum is lovely but extremely disorganized, the children often turn up in clothes that are too small, odd socks and not very clean .frankly i feel embarressed taking them out to groups, park shopping etc. Is it wrong of me to put them in my reserve of clothes that i have. I havent been doing this long so im not always sure what the right thing to do is. Thanks for any advise.
Kats xx :)

Mine's the opposite. 2 year old turns up in designer gear and I change him into my own son's clothes when they are playing outside or messy play. Mum knows but doesnt mind and doesnt provide me with play clothes.

I dont think you are doing anything wrong.

LOL...it's very common for us minders to wash/redress our mindees!:rolleyes:

Blaze, is it ok to change them and change them back without telling mum?

I would always say something to the mum - what if a friend commented she'd seen the children out with you? Or one of the children says at home that you're always getting them changed? Best to be honest but not make a big deal out of it iykwim.

I'd just say it really casually ... if you keep a spare set of clothes at your house you can wash as you go :D

I would always say something to the mum - what if a friend commented she'd seen the children out with you? Or one of the children says at home that you're always getting them changed? Best to be honest but not make a big deal out of it iykwim.

I'd just say it really casually ... if you keep a spare set of clothes at your house you can wash as you go :D

Same! I ask for a selection of clothes to be left at mine..to accomodate the constantly changing weather & accidents/spills.:) I have to admit though i am not always completely honest...I might say Lo spilt juice, so I changed top & washed the other one IYSWIM rather then saying it was filthy when you bought Lo this morning!;)

Same! I ask for a selection of clothes to be left at mine..to accomodate the constantly changing weather & accidents/spills.:) I have to admit though i am not always completely honest...I might say Lo spilt juice, so I changed top & washed the other one IYSWIM rather then saying it was filthy when you bought Lo this morning!;)

think thats how I would go about it TBH:o

I have a form that parents sign and agree too - saying that I will change their clothes if the clothes they are wearing are not suitable for our days play etc ( easier to say that than say your clothes are to small or dirty etc )

Some come in clothes that can not get ruined - how are you supposed to prevent that if your playing in the garden ?

So if they sign to agree to it - what can they say ?

It is easier obviously not to tell the parent that you are changing their clothes - but a little hard to stop a 3 or 4 year old telling their mom

So thats where my form comes in

Angel xx

Thanks everyone, i like the idea of having a signed form
katsxxx

Same! I ask for a selection of clothes to be left at mine..to accomodate the constantly changing weather & accidents/spills.:) I have to admit though i am not always completely honest...I might say Lo spilt juice, so I changed top & washed the other one IYSWIM rather then saying it was filthy when you bought Lo this morning!;)

I don't do honest either:rolleyes: Think mum must think baby is really clumsy with me. I am embarrassed to take my mindee to toddler group in the state he comes in. Luckily he is just slightly smaller than my ds so fits in same clothes. As soon as mum leaves (we have to go straight out) I remove his dummy, wash his face (he has wotsits for breakfast) and change his clothes.

As soon as mum leaves (we have to go straight out) I remove his dummy, wash his face (he has wotsits for breakfast) and change his clothes.

Dont say that you are making me feel bad about dummy part, LOL. I always said that I cant stand babies with dummies, bibs and wet mouths but due to not having any help after birth other than hubby after work sometimes(if he wasnt too tired) after 6 weeks I couldnt take my baby hanging of my breast 24/7 and forced him to pop around to the shops before they close at 4 as he was still working on a Sunday to bring something that will soother her. Yes she still has it but we dont 100% depend on it, just when she is really restless and doesnt want anything but dummy, LOL but luckily no bib ever or wet dribbling mouth LOL

Dont say that you are making me feel bad about dummy part, LOL. I always said that I cant stand babies with dummies, bibs and wet mouths but due to not having any help after birth other than hubby after work sometimes(if he wasnt too tired) after 6 weeks I couldnt take my baby hanging of my breast 24/7 and forced him to pop around to the shops before they close at 4 as he was still working on a Sunday to bring something that will soother her. Yes she still has it but we dont 100% depend on it, just when she is really restless and doesnt want anything but dummy, LOL but luckily no bib ever or wet dribbling mouth LOL

I have absolutely nothing against dummies! My ds has one to go to bed with. Mindee on the other hand is 18 mths old and always has it plugged in when with Mum. He doesn't bother about it at all when he is with me but it is the first thing Mum does when she picks him up:panic:

this has been talked about before

i think we all do it to some extent

i told my 6 year old mindee that she needed a bath and hair wash the other day and to wash her socks as they smelt

she had been in the same school uniform all week and it was already grubby on the monday and her socks well i know she has 2 pairs and one were left here the week before so she wore the same pair ALL week.
poor child her parents just don't seem to notice

I know what u mean as i told myself as soon as she is able to eat solids properly as right now she doesnt eat too well and doesnt want finger foods,rice cakes or juice i will get rid of dummy

I have absolutely nothing against dummies! My ds has one to go to bed with. Mindee on the other hand is 18 mths old and always has it plugged in when with Mum. He doesn't bother about it at all when he is with me but it is the first thing Mum does when she picks him up:panic:

I'm the same Amanda. My own children had dummies, Mitchell still does at bedtime, it isn't even allowed downstairs during the day.
Mom of mindee mentioned she wanted him to not have the dummy so much, so I take it or rather he gives it to me as soon as mom goes. He has it back when he has his nap though. What gets me is she wants to cut his dummy down but he turns up every morning with it in his mouth and as soon as he hears the door knock (his mom or dad) he moans for it back.

As for the clothes luckily for me mindee is younger than Mitchell so I pass on most of his old clothes so I know they are decent. Yesterday though lo turned up in some shorts age 4, he isn't even 2 yet. Needless to say they looked more like trousers and did fit with the belt pulled tight :laughing:

Carol xx

I'm the same Amanda. My own children had dummies, Mitchell still does at bedtime, it isn't even allowed downstairs during the day.
Mom of mindee mentioned she wanted him to not have the dummy so much, so I take it or rather he gives it to me as soon as mom goes. He has it back when he has his nap though. What gets me is she wants to cut his dummy down but he turns up every morning with it in his mouth and as soon as he hears the door knock (his mom or dad) he moans for it back.

As for the clothes luckily for me mindee is younger than Mitchell so I pass on most of his old clothes so I know they are decent. Yesterday though lo turned up in some shorts age 4, he isn't even 2 yet. Needless to say they looked more like trousers and did fit with the belt pulled tight :laughing:

Carol xx

Hmmmmmm. That means cut it down with you but we cant deal with the whining for it and so give in and he knows it. :mad:

I must admit that we have to be clever first thing in the morning with Will getting it out. He did leave it in the bed for a while but he stopped doing that and brings it down. We have to do a one handed movement when putting his bib on for breakfast - as it goes over his head you grab the dummy from underneath in one swift movement. :laughing: