jadavi
11-08-2011, 08:51 PM
If you can be bothered would you kindly read thru my policy on behaviour and give me your honest thoughts espec. if you have an idea of how Ofsted is likely to react. (we were advised to have this ready for our registration visit)
I'm aware my attitude to behaviour is rather liberal and certainly different to a lot of policies I have read (No means NO etc)
My attitude is based on my 25 years of home education and working with children and I know it works but I want to check I am expressing it right...maybe it reads as pie in the sky... I need to word it so Ofsted will be happy with it as I want to be a child minder!
Sorry its so long and thanks in advance.
Managing Behaviour Policy
Promoting positive behavior and boosting self esteem is very important and I do this mainly by listening and fully engaging with your child and observing body language carefully: I try to:
• Give lots of positive signals for sociable behaviour.
• Give the children individual attention so they feel valued but knowing when to give them space too.
• Set a good example, being a good role model
• Listen to what the children have to say and discussing difficult situations they are struggling with.
• Generally I do not use stickers and behaviour charts etc but if we have a problem of persistent poor behavior then I would consider this system. I prefer to use discussion to help the child understand and appreciate the consequences of his behavior and choose to change because he wants to behave better rather than because he wants a sticker.
I help the children understand my main house rules which are variations of ‘we like to be nice to each other in my house and show respect for each others feelings’ I am consistent in carrying this forward. I do not raise my voice, unless the child is in some danger and certainly never use any kind of physical discipline except withdrawing the child for a chat and a break.
I am aware of the different reasons why children misbehave and will endeavour to keep to routines so that your child feels safe and is not over tired or hungry and feels able to tell me what is wrong.
However all children will exhibit anti social behavior at some time for a variety of reasons and it is my job to understand why this is. After 25 years experience with young people I have come to recognize it could be from hunger, pain, illness, fatigue, boredom, home sickness, jealousy, frustration or fury over an existing problem outside my setting. I never see it as the child’s fault but rather try to understand where it came from and move to find a win / win solution and use conflict resolution principles. (This involves allowing the child to give ‘their side’ and repeating it back to them, doing the same with the other person and then asking: ‘What can we do to make this better? ’) Obviously a lot of the children in my care will be too young to reason with or not even be speaking. In these cases I will use loving restraint when the behaviour is antisocial or hurtful to others. I will try to remove the cause of the behaviour ( ie a toy that 2 childen are fighting over) and will try to divert by using jokes and humour or a change of situation.
Where we are having persistent antisocial behaviour, I will discuss it with the parents/carers and try to together come up with a consistent approach. I will also respectfully discuss with your child why he is acting up and what we can do to improve things as he will be feeling bad and unhappy too.
If a child exhibits this behaviour and it becomes a problem I will let you know by either writing it in their contact book or by ringing you later after collection and together we can mull it over. If my approach is very different from your, I will do my best to accommodate your requests re discipline.
Often anti social behaviour can be just a transition phase in his development and actually signals a step forward and should not be feared. Change is healthy and so is expressing your feelings!
I'm aware my attitude to behaviour is rather liberal and certainly different to a lot of policies I have read (No means NO etc)
My attitude is based on my 25 years of home education and working with children and I know it works but I want to check I am expressing it right...maybe it reads as pie in the sky... I need to word it so Ofsted will be happy with it as I want to be a child minder!
Sorry its so long and thanks in advance.
Managing Behaviour Policy
Promoting positive behavior and boosting self esteem is very important and I do this mainly by listening and fully engaging with your child and observing body language carefully: I try to:
• Give lots of positive signals for sociable behaviour.
• Give the children individual attention so they feel valued but knowing when to give them space too.
• Set a good example, being a good role model
• Listen to what the children have to say and discussing difficult situations they are struggling with.
• Generally I do not use stickers and behaviour charts etc but if we have a problem of persistent poor behavior then I would consider this system. I prefer to use discussion to help the child understand and appreciate the consequences of his behavior and choose to change because he wants to behave better rather than because he wants a sticker.
I help the children understand my main house rules which are variations of ‘we like to be nice to each other in my house and show respect for each others feelings’ I am consistent in carrying this forward. I do not raise my voice, unless the child is in some danger and certainly never use any kind of physical discipline except withdrawing the child for a chat and a break.
I am aware of the different reasons why children misbehave and will endeavour to keep to routines so that your child feels safe and is not over tired or hungry and feels able to tell me what is wrong.
However all children will exhibit anti social behavior at some time for a variety of reasons and it is my job to understand why this is. After 25 years experience with young people I have come to recognize it could be from hunger, pain, illness, fatigue, boredom, home sickness, jealousy, frustration or fury over an existing problem outside my setting. I never see it as the child’s fault but rather try to understand where it came from and move to find a win / win solution and use conflict resolution principles. (This involves allowing the child to give ‘their side’ and repeating it back to them, doing the same with the other person and then asking: ‘What can we do to make this better? ’) Obviously a lot of the children in my care will be too young to reason with or not even be speaking. In these cases I will use loving restraint when the behaviour is antisocial or hurtful to others. I will try to remove the cause of the behaviour ( ie a toy that 2 childen are fighting over) and will try to divert by using jokes and humour or a change of situation.
Where we are having persistent antisocial behaviour, I will discuss it with the parents/carers and try to together come up with a consistent approach. I will also respectfully discuss with your child why he is acting up and what we can do to improve things as he will be feeling bad and unhappy too.
If a child exhibits this behaviour and it becomes a problem I will let you know by either writing it in their contact book or by ringing you later after collection and together we can mull it over. If my approach is very different from your, I will do my best to accommodate your requests re discipline.
Often anti social behaviour can be just a transition phase in his development and actually signals a step forward and should not be feared. Change is healthy and so is expressing your feelings!