juslh
24-07-2011, 06:21 PM
I don't know if its the job, or the mindees, or just me, but its a lot harder than I thought it would be.
I knew none of this in advance:
Mindee 1 has a severe stammer and behavioural problems. He is 3. He is quietly defiant on a daily basis. I try to shut the car door, he pushes it open.I try to open the door, he pulls it shut. I say no to something, he does it again smiling at me. I said stop throwing the balls around please, he throws one right in my face from up close. And so on. We do have moments of harmony but then he will suddenly start screeching in my ear for no apparent reason. When mum turns up, all hell breaks loose.
Mindee 2 is a baby of 13 months. He WILL NOT EVER sleep anywhere but a cot. And on any given day I never know whether he will need to nap am or pm. Mum never seems to be able to advise. I can try to put him down only for him to scream the place down ...or I can keep him up and he is clingy and grizzly. Mum seems at her wits end with him too. And the biggy she forgot to mention - he is a breath holder and likes to paddy himself unconcious. Its horrible.
Coupled with this I have my own children so I have to do a school/pre-school drop off, a lunchtime pre-school pick up, and another school pick up so squeezing the baby's nap in can be a nightmare anyway.
Im not really expecting any advice since I guess it is how it is, I think I just needed to off load a bit! But I dread CM days now, and that can't be right, can it? I feel I have failed to be feeling like that, I have only been doing it a few months.
I knew none of this in advance:
Mindee 1 has a severe stammer and behavioural problems. He is 3. He is quietly defiant on a daily basis. I try to shut the car door, he pushes it open.I try to open the door, he pulls it shut. I say no to something, he does it again smiling at me. I said stop throwing the balls around please, he throws one right in my face from up close. And so on. We do have moments of harmony but then he will suddenly start screeching in my ear for no apparent reason. When mum turns up, all hell breaks loose.
Mindee 2 is a baby of 13 months. He WILL NOT EVER sleep anywhere but a cot. And on any given day I never know whether he will need to nap am or pm. Mum never seems to be able to advise. I can try to put him down only for him to scream the place down ...or I can keep him up and he is clingy and grizzly. Mum seems at her wits end with him too. And the biggy she forgot to mention - he is a breath holder and likes to paddy himself unconcious. Its horrible.
Coupled with this I have my own children so I have to do a school/pre-school drop off, a lunchtime pre-school pick up, and another school pick up so squeezing the baby's nap in can be a nightmare anyway.
Im not really expecting any advice since I guess it is how it is, I think I just needed to off load a bit! But I dread CM days now, and that can't be right, can it? I feel I have failed to be feeling like that, I have only been doing it a few months.