sazz
09-01-2011, 09:43 PM
Hi, i apologise for the length of this post as i just have to get this off my chest and get some advice.
I have two families i mind for a little boy in the morning who's mum is fantastic. really good at letting me know things like school dates and such, and two boys i have after school.
I was first contacted and asked if i could have the two boys from 3pm till 7pm monday to friday, it then changed to monday to thursday and since then has change from 3pm till 7.30pm monday and tuesday and 3pm till 8pm wednesday and thursday. However dad kept turning up at 8pm everynight. i have since spoken to him and he now turns up at 7.30 everynight so that has been sorted. but i really feel he is taking advantage of me and he makes me feel very intimidated.
One of the boys went on a school trip which he didnt tell me about, so i turned up at the school to pick them both up to find one of them not there. he told me he would be back from the trip a few days later so i turned up again to pick both up to find he'd sent him home with someone else (again without telling me). I told him when he came to pick the other up that he needed to inform me of things such as term dates and trips.
Then when it snowed really badly, i was keeping an eye on which schools were closed and noticed the school he works in was closed, so i sent him a text just asking if he was still working as his school was closed. He then phoned me an hour later saying he wasnt working and so would pick them up.
The next day he sent me a message saying did he have to pay for that day coz he'd had to pick them up when it should have been me picking them up.
Then on the friday he turned up at my flat, without calling expecting me to write him a letter for his tax credits, i wasnt in but he caught up with me in the post office and i ended up having to write him this letter in the post office.
Then one of the boys went on another trip, and he neglected to let me know about again.
Then just before christmas it snowed again he phoned me at 3.15 just after i'd picked the boys up, to tell me that he wasnt at work so i could either take the boys to him in town or to mine and he'd collected them when he'd finished in town.
Then on tuesday he sent me a text message at half 9 saying "school open back today" As the little boy i have in the morning didnt start till thursday and he hadnt let me know when they went back i was with my mum and dad coz over christmas my dad had a stroke, so i text him back apologising but i wasnt in the area and that he should have let me know before that day. To which he told me i must know because the 4th of january is just a normal day so i should have been back.
then on thursday he phoned me 2.45 when i'd left to pick the boys up to tell me he was unwell and wouldnt be going to work so i could either drop the boys to him at home or take them to mine and he'd have someone pick them up later.
I find him really intimidating and feel he is taking advantage somewhat but dont know how to deal with him, any advice welcome.
so i gave him a letter reiterating that it was parents resposiblity to let me know dates prior to them. To which he sent me a long quite abusive message.
I have two families i mind for a little boy in the morning who's mum is fantastic. really good at letting me know things like school dates and such, and two boys i have after school.
I was first contacted and asked if i could have the two boys from 3pm till 7pm monday to friday, it then changed to monday to thursday and since then has change from 3pm till 7.30pm monday and tuesday and 3pm till 8pm wednesday and thursday. However dad kept turning up at 8pm everynight. i have since spoken to him and he now turns up at 7.30 everynight so that has been sorted. but i really feel he is taking advantage of me and he makes me feel very intimidated.
One of the boys went on a school trip which he didnt tell me about, so i turned up at the school to pick them both up to find one of them not there. he told me he would be back from the trip a few days later so i turned up again to pick both up to find he'd sent him home with someone else (again without telling me). I told him when he came to pick the other up that he needed to inform me of things such as term dates and trips.
Then when it snowed really badly, i was keeping an eye on which schools were closed and noticed the school he works in was closed, so i sent him a text just asking if he was still working as his school was closed. He then phoned me an hour later saying he wasnt working and so would pick them up.
The next day he sent me a message saying did he have to pay for that day coz he'd had to pick them up when it should have been me picking them up.
Then on the friday he turned up at my flat, without calling expecting me to write him a letter for his tax credits, i wasnt in but he caught up with me in the post office and i ended up having to write him this letter in the post office.
Then one of the boys went on another trip, and he neglected to let me know about again.
Then just before christmas it snowed again he phoned me at 3.15 just after i'd picked the boys up, to tell me that he wasnt at work so i could either take the boys to him in town or to mine and he'd collected them when he'd finished in town.
Then on tuesday he sent me a text message at half 9 saying "school open back today" As the little boy i have in the morning didnt start till thursday and he hadnt let me know when they went back i was with my mum and dad coz over christmas my dad had a stroke, so i text him back apologising but i wasnt in the area and that he should have let me know before that day. To which he told me i must know because the 4th of january is just a normal day so i should have been back.
then on thursday he phoned me 2.45 when i'd left to pick the boys up to tell me he was unwell and wouldnt be going to work so i could either drop the boys to him at home or take them to mine and he'd have someone pick them up later.
I find him really intimidating and feel he is taking advantage somewhat but dont know how to deal with him, any advice welcome.
so i gave him a letter reiterating that it was parents resposiblity to let me know dates prior to them. To which he sent me a long quite abusive message.