Boy with attitude

[claire'scherubs]

hi all

hope you are all well

pulling my hair out with my son's attitude, he is 8, any clues on how to curb the back chat, always arguing, and just general hormonal behaviour. Tried time out, groundings, talking to him, etc etc

Also he is always losing 'golden time' at school for 'fussing'

Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[angeldelight]

Oh bless

They all try it on dont they

Is he just like this at home - whats his behaviour like at school

Angel xx

[Tribe_mummy]

I have had this with my son at around 8, 10 and now 13! Hormones have a lot to answer for....does he have an xbox etc....grounding, no computers, time out altogether worked a treat for us, and when he answered back " I don't care...another day got added on....he soon learnt....mind you 2 weeks grounding is more punishment for us as parents I think lol x

[claire'scherubs]

Angel....we don't get any complaints from school other than he fusses, ie always wanting to know what they are doing next, in a hurry etc etc

Jac we do do all of that but will keep at it then,

Why are your own children always the hardest:(

thanks

claire x

[Trouble]

Because they can be themselves with us :eek: :eek: :eek:

[Tribe_mummy]

Sorry couldn't be of more help but standing your ground will help, it took my lad two solid weeks of grounding for it to sink in. I also made him explain to his mates who called for him that he was grounded, Embarresment factor may have helped! Good luck :)

[angeldelight]

He knows which buttons to press and it usually works with parents

He is feeling his feet and seeing how far he can push you

Stay strong

Maybe focus on something that he really likes that will interest him - praise him lots and try to distract him away from his bad behaviour by asking him to do something for you

We all go through this so now how you are feeling

Keep up the good work and remember you are a great mom

Good luck

Angel xx

[The Juggler]

i am having this with dd at the moment. all our threats get carried out, early bedtime, ds removed, no tv - nothing works! It's exhausting.:(

[angeldelight]

i am having this with dd at the moment. all our threats get carried out, early bedtime, ds removed, no tv - nothing works! It's exhausting.:(

Yeah I know

You feel like locking yourself away dont you sometimes

Hope things improve for you both

Angel xx

[Ali56]

when my big 2 were about that age (17 and 15 now) i used to give them one chance to sort themselves out with the threat of a punishment, usually a job where they could vent their anger and not cause any damage-ie mop floor, dust banister, help fold washing or something. i know this probably sounds like slavery but unvented frustration is never a good thing! it did mean they could bang around a bit legitimatly and not get told off more! (and i got the odd job done!) i felt that grounding only punished me and the knowledge that they didn't get to sit in their rooms and play soon stopped the backchat!!! lol
They are great kids now tho-not much teenage angst between them, lucky mum i am!!

Ali x :thumbsup:

[spowage]

i have a very nearly 10 yr old who is full of it since he started juniors so it doesnt improve as everyone has said just take things away i tend to take loads of screen time away and that s anything with a screen( he doesnt like that much) .mine tend to play up when ive a parent picking up which is really embarrassing .good luck......karen x

[moljak]

havea DD who's 8.She's exactly the same and after listening to other parents in the yard they are going through the same.Think the best we can do is follow through on punishment and stay strong.Hoping its just a phase and it will end soon though.Aggggggrrrrrr

[Kimmy050983]

Hi I can recommend a brillant book it´s called "how to talk so kids will listen and how to listen so kids will talk" it´s a complete eye opener and might be helpful:)

[Ali56]

That sounds like a good book to read Kimmy, can you tell us who the author is? my 8 yr old is the same as all the others but much more strong willed than my older 2! I'm always up for learning more!

Ali x:)

[Kimmy050983]

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Talk-Kids-Wi...8659439&sr=8-1 (http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1853407054?ie=UTF8&tag=childminding-21&linkCode=as2&camp=1634&creative=19450&creativeASIN=1853407054">How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk (How to Help Your Child) (How to Help Your Child)</a><img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.co.uk/e/ir?t=childminding-21&l=as2&o=2&a=1853407054" width="1" height="1" border="0" alt="" style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;)

it´s of adele faber and elaine maizlish :)

[loocyloo]

i've got an 8 yr old boy too

and i have nothing more to add ! :laughing:

sometimes he can be so sweet and lovely and other times, well ......

apparently he is an angel at school; hardworking, polite, helpful .... i did ask his teacher if she had the right child!

but actually, all my friends with 8 yr olds are having the same thing !!!

[avril]

Hi I can recommend a brillant book it´s called "how to talk so kids will listen and how to listen so kids will talk" it´s a complete eye opener and might be helpful:)

Thank you :thumbsup:
I've just ordered this my eldest ds is just 7yrs old and I feel like I am talking another language at times then all h*ll brakes loose and off he storms telling me I'm mean or this is the worst day ever :eek:
I've tried talking to him and everything settles down for a day or 2 then back to square one. He starts junior school in Sept which is a separate school to infants (across the road) I've asked if he's worried, anxious but he says it's all ok as he has been for soo many visits and has a buddy to help him settle.

I do worry about him as he can be really sensitive and dwells on things but is usually very open and honest. Fingers crossed just hormones.

Hurry up and arrive book :D

[Carpet Monkeys]

i am having this with dd at the moment. all our threats get carried out, early bedtime, ds removed, no tv - nothing works! It's exhausting.:(

Me too, DD is 8 going on 25, driving me crackers especially as dad is working away till December, only me to deal with it .... she's currently grounded to Wednesday and not allowed to watch the match tonight. The next biggie if any more 'tude it'll be no dance club on Friday ... hopefully it won't come to that, but I know that'll' break her!

Just placed a reservation for the book ... gonna need it I think!