helenlc
05-05-2010, 01:23 PM
My mindee J was 2 in Feb of this year. He has a much older brother, so is almost like an only child.
He has been quite defiant lately and pushing the boundaries - which is usual for his age and we can work through this.
But last week, and more so today, he has been incredibly boisterous at soft play. They are all in the under 3s bit. He has taken to pushing the children (my other mindees aged 21 mths and 11 mths but also some other children today too), running into them on purpose and barging them over, grabbing my 21 mth old round the neck and dragging her down and also today he jumped up and landed straight on the 11 mth old!!:eek:
He is doing it on purpose and almost hunts out my other mindees - he generally goes straight past any other children. I gave him 2 min time out each time and in the end, sat him in the pushchair. Maybe for longer than I should have done but he was literally being rough the minute he got back into the soft play area.
I tell him each time he does it thats its not nice and he is hurting the other children. At the end of time out, I then tell him why he had it (again) and that he is to be nice and gentle to the other children.
I dont want to stop going as the other mindees enjoy it. I just need some ideas on how to deal with it while we are there.
He has also started to be a little rough at home but nothing like what he is like at soft play. I wonder if its him getting over excited there? But I also know that that is not acceptable. He pushed a little baby a couple of times today. I apologized to Mum but I dont want to turn into one of those poeple who walks into soft play and people go "Oh thats her with the really rough child":blush:
Any advice would be welcome.:D
He has been quite defiant lately and pushing the boundaries - which is usual for his age and we can work through this.
But last week, and more so today, he has been incredibly boisterous at soft play. They are all in the under 3s bit. He has taken to pushing the children (my other mindees aged 21 mths and 11 mths but also some other children today too), running into them on purpose and barging them over, grabbing my 21 mth old round the neck and dragging her down and also today he jumped up and landed straight on the 11 mth old!!:eek:
He is doing it on purpose and almost hunts out my other mindees - he generally goes straight past any other children. I gave him 2 min time out each time and in the end, sat him in the pushchair. Maybe for longer than I should have done but he was literally being rough the minute he got back into the soft play area.
I tell him each time he does it thats its not nice and he is hurting the other children. At the end of time out, I then tell him why he had it (again) and that he is to be nice and gentle to the other children.
I dont want to stop going as the other mindees enjoy it. I just need some ideas on how to deal with it while we are there.
He has also started to be a little rough at home but nothing like what he is like at soft play. I wonder if its him getting over excited there? But I also know that that is not acceptable. He pushed a little baby a couple of times today. I apologized to Mum but I dont want to turn into one of those poeple who walks into soft play and people go "Oh thats her with the really rough child":blush:
Any advice would be welcome.:D