MissTinkerbell
28-04-2010, 04:51 PM
I'm sure you will all remember me posting a thread a few weeks back as to whether I should have a chat with mum about still contiuing to send her DD when she started maternity leave?
Well since then I had another word with mum and she was still adament on sending her! B has broken down in tears on numerous occasions with worries about the arrival of her new baby sister and whats going to happen - even saying that she wants her daddy to move back in with her mummy because at least daddy wouldn't be busy with baby stuff and he was all hers :(
I spoke to mum about all of this and suggested that she have a good long chat with B as she just needed some reassurance about how things were going to be and what was going to happen when mum went into hospital.
Mum started maternity leave on Friday and B thought mummy was picking her up from school so was in tears but I managed to distract her and she was OK when she got back to mine. She had Monday off school because of doctors appt so was at home with mum all day.
Yesterday mum's boyfriend's mum arrived to stop for a week and she insisted on taking and fetching B from school but I was told that I would have B back today.
B wasn't dropped off this morning and mum came to me on the playground saying that she couldn't persuade B to come to mine this morning but could I still pick her up from school? I asked if this was a good idea after what had obviously happened and she said that she couldn't pick her up cos she had things to do in town (the woman had a whole 6 hours whilst she was at school :mad: :angry: ).
Anyway I went to meet B from school and she was distraught. She didn't want to come home with me and told her teacher 'no, she was going home with mummy'. B's best friend's mum came over and tried to comfort her and asked what was wrong so I expleined. She then asked if B would like to go home and play with J and have tea at his house? She said that she would and she didn't want to go to my house.
I said that I couldn't let her go unless I had mum's permission (which she understood). She tried to ring mum and on about the 6th attempt mum answered her mobile. She spoke to me and TBH was so unfussed by the whole thing that I was gobsmacked. Anyway she gave me permission to hand her over and B went home with J. J's mum has said that she will have a stern word with B's mum and tell her that for B's sake she needs to be at home with mummy and not with me - hopefully she will listen to J's mum now.
I was then speaking to B's teacher and they've been having trouble with her at school - being tearful, upset and wanting mummy. I really feel for B and worry how she's going to cope when the new baby does arrive. It just annoys me that some mum's do nothinhy to prepare their children for the arrival of a new little person who is going to completely change everything they have ever known. She won't be my responsibility once baby arrives but I just feel awful for her.
Well since then I had another word with mum and she was still adament on sending her! B has broken down in tears on numerous occasions with worries about the arrival of her new baby sister and whats going to happen - even saying that she wants her daddy to move back in with her mummy because at least daddy wouldn't be busy with baby stuff and he was all hers :(
I spoke to mum about all of this and suggested that she have a good long chat with B as she just needed some reassurance about how things were going to be and what was going to happen when mum went into hospital.
Mum started maternity leave on Friday and B thought mummy was picking her up from school so was in tears but I managed to distract her and she was OK when she got back to mine. She had Monday off school because of doctors appt so was at home with mum all day.
Yesterday mum's boyfriend's mum arrived to stop for a week and she insisted on taking and fetching B from school but I was told that I would have B back today.
B wasn't dropped off this morning and mum came to me on the playground saying that she couldn't persuade B to come to mine this morning but could I still pick her up from school? I asked if this was a good idea after what had obviously happened and she said that she couldn't pick her up cos she had things to do in town (the woman had a whole 6 hours whilst she was at school :mad: :angry: ).
Anyway I went to meet B from school and she was distraught. She didn't want to come home with me and told her teacher 'no, she was going home with mummy'. B's best friend's mum came over and tried to comfort her and asked what was wrong so I expleined. She then asked if B would like to go home and play with J and have tea at his house? She said that she would and she didn't want to go to my house.
I said that I couldn't let her go unless I had mum's permission (which she understood). She tried to ring mum and on about the 6th attempt mum answered her mobile. She spoke to me and TBH was so unfussed by the whole thing that I was gobsmacked. Anyway she gave me permission to hand her over and B went home with J. J's mum has said that she will have a stern word with B's mum and tell her that for B's sake she needs to be at home with mummy and not with me - hopefully she will listen to J's mum now.
I was then speaking to B's teacher and they've been having trouble with her at school - being tearful, upset and wanting mummy. I really feel for B and worry how she's going to cope when the new baby does arrive. It just annoys me that some mum's do nothinhy to prepare their children for the arrival of a new little person who is going to completely change everything they have ever known. She won't be my responsibility once baby arrives but I just feel awful for her.