emma04
26-04-2010, 03:36 PM
Sorry long post:
I have been minding a little boy for a little over a year for one and a half days per week. Ever since he came to me he has had great difficulty in interacting with the other children and prefers to be alone, all of the time. I try to get him involved with activities and he will join in for a few seconds but then take himself off elswhere, normally to the middle of the room and stand staring and twiddling his hands.
I have documented his behaviour in his daily diary and progress reports and tried my best to be positive and make positive comments but its really hard. Mum and Dad just think he's very quiet and is having an off day (what for a year!!!!)
Mum and Dad are the biggest issue i think. When he first came to me, Initially i wasn't to take him to any toddler groups because they were too noisy, thankfully he wasn't with me on the days that i visited toddlers so that was kind of ok, although i didn't really agree with her. They also gave me a list of noises that they said upset him. Last week he was absolutely terrified of the bouncy castle and toy lawn mower, i documented this in his daily diary and Mum called me up later to ask if i would keep the bouncy castle and lawn mower away when he was there!!:eek: I politely refused and said that he really needed to get used to noise and changes to his environments, to which she pointed out that when his Dad was mowing the lawn, he actually pulled shut the curtains as he was afraid of the mower!! (He was 2 in March)
I have other children here, they are noisy, children are, It's lovely weather and they all want to be out except him, he would rather stand in my lounge watching from the window. I have been incredibly patient and have given him lots of time to adjust, but i'm starting to struggle, mainly because i'm worried he might have a problem (not that i would ever suggest that to his parents). We now visit 2 toddler sessions whilst he is with me in the hope that he will get better at interacting and he has improved a little, but although he now plays alongside others children, it is never with them and he plays as if they don't exist and often he will take himself off to the middle of the hall and just watch (for well over 5-10min without moving - I left him once just to see if he would get fed up and start playing, but he didn't until i asked him to play!)
He has an excellent vocabulary, but never uses it and when he does its just to refer to his coat, shoes, snack, drink or anything else relating to him. He never converses with the other children, not even babble.
His speech and movements are quite 'robotic' and i'm seriously concerned.
Has anyone experienced anything like it?
I have been minding a little boy for a little over a year for one and a half days per week. Ever since he came to me he has had great difficulty in interacting with the other children and prefers to be alone, all of the time. I try to get him involved with activities and he will join in for a few seconds but then take himself off elswhere, normally to the middle of the room and stand staring and twiddling his hands.
I have documented his behaviour in his daily diary and progress reports and tried my best to be positive and make positive comments but its really hard. Mum and Dad just think he's very quiet and is having an off day (what for a year!!!!)
Mum and Dad are the biggest issue i think. When he first came to me, Initially i wasn't to take him to any toddler groups because they were too noisy, thankfully he wasn't with me on the days that i visited toddlers so that was kind of ok, although i didn't really agree with her. They also gave me a list of noises that they said upset him. Last week he was absolutely terrified of the bouncy castle and toy lawn mower, i documented this in his daily diary and Mum called me up later to ask if i would keep the bouncy castle and lawn mower away when he was there!!:eek: I politely refused and said that he really needed to get used to noise and changes to his environments, to which she pointed out that when his Dad was mowing the lawn, he actually pulled shut the curtains as he was afraid of the mower!! (He was 2 in March)
I have other children here, they are noisy, children are, It's lovely weather and they all want to be out except him, he would rather stand in my lounge watching from the window. I have been incredibly patient and have given him lots of time to adjust, but i'm starting to struggle, mainly because i'm worried he might have a problem (not that i would ever suggest that to his parents). We now visit 2 toddler sessions whilst he is with me in the hope that he will get better at interacting and he has improved a little, but although he now plays alongside others children, it is never with them and he plays as if they don't exist and often he will take himself off to the middle of the hall and just watch (for well over 5-10min without moving - I left him once just to see if he would get fed up and start playing, but he didn't until i asked him to play!)
He has an excellent vocabulary, but never uses it and when he does its just to refer to his coat, shoes, snack, drink or anything else relating to him. He never converses with the other children, not even babble.
His speech and movements are quite 'robotic' and i'm seriously concerned.
Has anyone experienced anything like it?