Scared to re-apply, advice needed!!!

[titchy21]

Hi there, bit hard to explain, but ill do my best! I am a 29 year mum of four, ds 7, ds 6 and twins dd4 and ds 4. When i was 19 i was studying for a full time business degree, financially i was supporting myself with no help, working and studying, I found it tough and was diagnosed with depression. My depression continued on and off due to various reasons for the next 8 years and I stopped taking medication in May 2007. None of my depression was down to my children, it was all family problems, mum had cancer, dad disowned me at 18, grandma died and the pressure of university. I married in 2002, and all of my children are my husbands and we are still happily married.
I have been an at home mum for the past 7 years, and have loved every minute of it , even though 4 children under the age of 3 wasnt quite the plan, lol.:laughing: . As every other family will know, money can be tight, and I decided in the summer of 2007 to apply to become a childminder, did the breifings and filled in the medical docs, and filled in all crb forms, but when they came to do my first inspection, the lady sat me down and said " I am really sorry but you are medically unfit to look after young children" needless to say i was shocked and very upset, i asked if that was the case, why were social services not involved with my children!! She couldnt reply to the question, and told me if I withdrew my application, I could re apply in the future. So I withdrew my application.
I must admit, this seriously knocked my confidence. I love my children so much and they are the best things in my life, I love children in general and working with them was all I ever really wanted to do.

I have now moved house, to a new area and my twins are due to start school in Sept, I really feel now is the time to be working, but I need to work around my children, as I cant afford the huge childcare bills. I have been crb checked and cleared at my local nursery, so I know thats not a problem, but currently they only have vacancies for volunteers. I had a med appt yesterday and I spoke to my dr, who said three years is a significant time to be without medical treatment and his eyes he thinks I am medically fit to re apply. I want to, but I am really scared of rejection again! Any advice, or anyone, been in a similar situation before?? Sorry if this is really long winded, but trying to fit 10 years of your life into a window isnt easy, lol.

Any advice appreciated, ty. :thumbsup:

[sarahlou]

Hi
I would try again or follow up why you were turned down. I have never heard of depression being a reason, Try again

Good Luck:thumbsup:

[Hebs]

If your dr thinks your medically fit go for it

I OD when I was a teenager, had post natal depression twice, I was honest and up front with ofsted the whole time, and I was registered no problem

Like you say if you were a danger why weren't ss concerned about your own kids!

And yes 3 years is a long time x

[Pipsqueak]

it would have all depended on what you doctor wrote down on your medical forms.
Try again hunny, don't be scared. Go to your doctor when you ask them to fill it in and explain the reasons you were turned down last time and the progress you have made since then etc.

[Nadine Beazley]

hiya!

my sister applied to be a cm, but Ofsted took ages to register her because she had had serious post natal depression with both of her children, took medication to control it, but never had social services deal with her either. Her doctor explained to Ofsted that my sis was off the med and safe to look after her own children and others. Then Ofsted registered her!

Apply again hun, with back up from your doctor you might be pleasantly surprised, don't give up!

x x

[PRINCESSDAISYFLOWER]

Like you i have suffered from depression in the past and been on medication. Ofsted made me see a specialist which took 20mins and who deemed me fit to work with children. Def re apply your ofsted inspector is not a mental health professional thus i question her ability in telling you to withdraw ur application.
Goodluck!!!

[caz3007]

I also have had depression in the past and I put a covering letter in with my medical certificate stating the reasons why I had the depression (my ex hubby was violent) and that I now wasnt in the situation and was ok now. I am sure with your docs backing you should be fine.

[sandy64]

i always say if you really want somethink its worth a second try especially as your circumctances have changed you sound like a lovely caring person and i wish you all the luck in the world hope it works for you.:)

[doodles]

Hi, I am still on anti-depressants and got my certificate last week.
Dont let it put you off. xx

[Chatterbox Childcare]

I understand that you are apprehensive because of your past but what have you got to lose? The worst that can happen is Ofsted say NO.

Go for it and see where it takes you. You never know why live throws you a curve and this could be the start of a new long road for you

Good luck :)

[titchy21]

ty all for taking the time to reassure me, I suppose I wont know unless I try, but im just so apprehensive! Well i suppose im just gonna have to re apply and se what happens. I dont know why they wouldnt let me with depression, maybe things have changed in the past 3 years, who knows. I hope this time with my drs backing things would be different, and I have no doubt if i get sent for an extra medical that i would pass, because I am fine! Fingers crossed for me, and I will keep posting, add me as a friend and I will keep you posted of my journey xx:clapping:

[lupin]

Good luck titchy :)

I am in the very early stages of becoming a childminder... I am off to do the briefing session in April, but I too am very nervous of being rejected, due to similar things, but mine was down to a violent ex.

I am going to ask them all about that at the briefing and hopefully it will not be an issue, because Im really looking forward to becoming a childminder

carla x