DIPPY DOUGHNUT
19-02-2010, 10:00 AM
I look after a 4 year old child from 07.30-09.00 Mon-Friday. He lives with mum one week and dad one week and so on. Both parents work full time.
Well when the child is with dad hes a lovely, well mannered boy but when is is with mum he is a completely different child.
Yesterday was a nightmare! He walked in where the two other children were playing a game and picked up all the pieces and turned his back on them and started playing byhimself. I explained to him that they were playing the game and that its not nice to take toys other people. I explained the house rules about sharing, his response was to go and sit behind my arm chair and start kicking it with all his might.:angry:
So i took him to the time out step explained why he was there then when i went to get him he said sorry then i said about sharing but he shouted at me that he didnt like sharing and wasnt going to!
Anyway he contiuned to shout at me and at the two other children but in their faces, they werent allowed to talk because he didnt want them too, when i went to put him in the car he shouted at one of the other children because there was a cardigen in his chair and he said she had put it there (she hadnt) then when we were driving him to nursery he shouted at the same child to tell her to stop singing his song and that shes not allowed to sing his song!!
Today he was the same only he pinched the other child and when i asked him why he said it was because the child was in his way and he had said sorry so it was fine :eek: I asked him to put his coat on and he had a trantrum shouting i cant do this its to hard, the same child he pinched offered to help him and he went to the child and shouted noooo in their face.
Then when i dropped him of to nursery a boy in his class said that his dad had a brother and my mindee went mad shouting at this boy.
No matter what i say to him or how many times he says sorry within 2 minutes hes doing it again. Whats getting to me is when hes with dad hes well behaved so i know he knows how to behave.
Im lucky to get a hello from mum in the mornings and dad isnt much better!! I know if i approach them dad will say "oh i dont have this behaviour at home so just tell him to stop" :angry: and mums not interesed!
The nursery approached me to say that mum didnt want me talking to them about the child (although shes never said this to me) but his behaviour was so bad just before xmas they agreed that we needed to beable to communicate.
His behaviour had really improved up until 3 weeks ago and I really am at the end of my tether and dont know what else to do, as all the good work i do with his behaviour and sharing goes out of the window as soon as hes with mum.
The nursery just say oh take the toy of him or put him on the step but that just isnt working. He really is so aggressive in the way he speaks to other people.
My husband has seen his behviour and just says give notice but i dont feel it will help the child if i do this.
Sorry for the long thread PLEASE does any one have any advice about what to do. Oh i forgot to mention that he is a very intellengent boy, the nursery also said this to dad however they then told him that they are running out of things to do with him :eek: as he is so more advanced then the other children in the class
Well when the child is with dad hes a lovely, well mannered boy but when is is with mum he is a completely different child.
Yesterday was a nightmare! He walked in where the two other children were playing a game and picked up all the pieces and turned his back on them and started playing byhimself. I explained to him that they were playing the game and that its not nice to take toys other people. I explained the house rules about sharing, his response was to go and sit behind my arm chair and start kicking it with all his might.:angry:
So i took him to the time out step explained why he was there then when i went to get him he said sorry then i said about sharing but he shouted at me that he didnt like sharing and wasnt going to!
Anyway he contiuned to shout at me and at the two other children but in their faces, they werent allowed to talk because he didnt want them too, when i went to put him in the car he shouted at one of the other children because there was a cardigen in his chair and he said she had put it there (she hadnt) then when we were driving him to nursery he shouted at the same child to tell her to stop singing his song and that shes not allowed to sing his song!!
Today he was the same only he pinched the other child and when i asked him why he said it was because the child was in his way and he had said sorry so it was fine :eek: I asked him to put his coat on and he had a trantrum shouting i cant do this its to hard, the same child he pinched offered to help him and he went to the child and shouted noooo in their face.
Then when i dropped him of to nursery a boy in his class said that his dad had a brother and my mindee went mad shouting at this boy.
No matter what i say to him or how many times he says sorry within 2 minutes hes doing it again. Whats getting to me is when hes with dad hes well behaved so i know he knows how to behave.
Im lucky to get a hello from mum in the mornings and dad isnt much better!! I know if i approach them dad will say "oh i dont have this behaviour at home so just tell him to stop" :angry: and mums not interesed!
The nursery approached me to say that mum didnt want me talking to them about the child (although shes never said this to me) but his behaviour was so bad just before xmas they agreed that we needed to beable to communicate.
His behaviour had really improved up until 3 weeks ago and I really am at the end of my tether and dont know what else to do, as all the good work i do with his behaviour and sharing goes out of the window as soon as hes with mum.
The nursery just say oh take the toy of him or put him on the step but that just isnt working. He really is so aggressive in the way he speaks to other people.
My husband has seen his behviour and just says give notice but i dont feel it will help the child if i do this.
Sorry for the long thread PLEASE does any one have any advice about what to do. Oh i forgot to mention that he is a very intellengent boy, the nursery also said this to dad however they then told him that they are running out of things to do with him :eek: as he is so more advanced then the other children in the class