Ramona
30-11-2009, 08:04 PM
Hi everyone,
I am new to this site but desperate for some information and advice. I am currently in the process of registering as a childminder. My youngest child is at full time school and I felt ready to go back to work and this met all the criteria to still be at home with my children and earn some money - probably the same reasons as most of the childminders on here!
I have completed my course, completed first aid, had first inspection and submitted my medical forms and this is where the potential problem has started. I had twin girls in 2002 and one of them was born with all sorts of abnormalities. She has since grown into a fantastic kid and copes with everything really well. I was diagnosed with PND 5 months after they were born and prior to going on to anti depressants had an episode where I got so angry I felt like biting one of the girls, but had enough self restraint to not do it to them and bit myself instead. It was the first and only episode of that and after I got medication, I was absolutely fine , picked myself up and carried on being a good mum. I came off the tablets for a while and then had my son and felt that overwhelming low again so went back on them and have been on them since - he is now 41/2. I have never since that time ever felt like harming my children or myself and at that period of time, was so low and grieving over the child I felt I had missed out on (not that I think any of that now or have done for a long time).
At the time of seeing my Dr first time around I was offered a counselling session which I didn't find particularly helpful, however they wrote a brief report and at the time felt the risk of me self harming or harming others was slightly above very low risk. This is now haunting me 71/2 years later :( as this was put into my medical form for Ofsted. They wrote back to my Dr asking for more information which I had fully expected.
However, I have just spoken to my Dr and he seems to think that my chances of Ofsted registering me are practically zero (not sure if this is because I am still on the anti-d's). He has said he can't lie about what happened in the past (which I completely understand and agree with), but this was in the past - 71/2 years ago! I am really upset about this and know I may be jumping the gun in thinking the worst, but I so want to do this and know I would be a good minder - I love children and volunteer regularly at my children's school in the Early years unit. I would never think of harming another child (and certainly not myself anymore either!).
I totally understand that they have to be so careful, but I feel like something that was a one off episode is potentially going to ruin my chances of working with children. Has anyone else had a problem similar to this and is there anything I can do to back up my case?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you! Ramona
I am new to this site but desperate for some information and advice. I am currently in the process of registering as a childminder. My youngest child is at full time school and I felt ready to go back to work and this met all the criteria to still be at home with my children and earn some money - probably the same reasons as most of the childminders on here!
I have completed my course, completed first aid, had first inspection and submitted my medical forms and this is where the potential problem has started. I had twin girls in 2002 and one of them was born with all sorts of abnormalities. She has since grown into a fantastic kid and copes with everything really well. I was diagnosed with PND 5 months after they were born and prior to going on to anti depressants had an episode where I got so angry I felt like biting one of the girls, but had enough self restraint to not do it to them and bit myself instead. It was the first and only episode of that and after I got medication, I was absolutely fine , picked myself up and carried on being a good mum. I came off the tablets for a while and then had my son and felt that overwhelming low again so went back on them and have been on them since - he is now 41/2. I have never since that time ever felt like harming my children or myself and at that period of time, was so low and grieving over the child I felt I had missed out on (not that I think any of that now or have done for a long time).
At the time of seeing my Dr first time around I was offered a counselling session which I didn't find particularly helpful, however they wrote a brief report and at the time felt the risk of me self harming or harming others was slightly above very low risk. This is now haunting me 71/2 years later :( as this was put into my medical form for Ofsted. They wrote back to my Dr asking for more information which I had fully expected.
However, I have just spoken to my Dr and he seems to think that my chances of Ofsted registering me are practically zero (not sure if this is because I am still on the anti-d's). He has said he can't lie about what happened in the past (which I completely understand and agree with), but this was in the past - 71/2 years ago! I am really upset about this and know I may be jumping the gun in thinking the worst, but I so want to do this and know I would be a good minder - I love children and volunteer regularly at my children's school in the Early years unit. I would never think of harming another child (and certainly not myself anymore either!).
I totally understand that they have to be so careful, but I feel like something that was a one off episode is potentially going to ruin my chances of working with children. Has anyone else had a problem similar to this and is there anything I can do to back up my case?
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you! Ramona