LeeAnn
13-08-2009, 09:23 AM
I will preface this by saying I am feeling quite unwell this week so I am possibly over reacting :blush:
aaaaaaaa! I am so hacked off. I have no idea how I am going to explain all this without giving out too many personal details and coming over as an awful person. :blush:
My rant is about the mum of one of the LOs I mind for. I knew this family before I started and I knew it was going to end up like this. The parents of this wee one are shall we say not "natural" parents. I would say they struggle very much with their toddler, who is a sweet little thing. The only reason I took her on is that a. it would have been awkward for me to say know because of the way I know them (her DH gives mine a lift to work) and b. I really want to give this little girl a little insight into a more normal and relaxed way of life.
Yesterday she was booked in here at 12-4 (mum wasn't working just wanted time away). I was at the beach with my own kids and another mindee at 10am when my phone rang, it was M's mum wondering if I could take her there and then. They were sitting outside my house and wondered if I owuld be able to come home. I said no sorry I was at least 30 mins away and the kids were playing etc. I would see her at 12.
When I got back she arrived and said that she hadn't minded me not coming back for M (what?? SHE hadn't minded??) and tha she had just been getting on her nerves so she wanted her in early. Anyway she then asked if I could keep her until 5pm instead, I said ok as I was working til then anyway.
Well the wee one is a sweetie, but very hard work. She basically gets no freedom at all at home so she kind of pushes her limits a bit wherever she is. but overall a good kid and gets on great with my DD.
So 5pm comes, my DH gets in from work and I am frazzled, I felt really unwell and just wanted to go to bed. But no sign of M's mum.:rolleyes:
Eventually at 5.30pm I called her house to find out what was going on, Dad said oh it's ok she is on her way up. I told him I was worried something had happened as she was supposed to have been picked up at 5pm and it was now 5.30!!
Mum walked in all smiles etc, I told her I had called looking for her as she was half an hour late and she just said "oh I must have lost track of time" :angry: they live about a 5 min walk from my house, she hadnt been working so didnt get caught in traffic or anything she was just taking the you know what!
Then to cap it all off this morning she dropped her off again. She asked me not to let her eat anything after 3pm as she isnt eating her tea. I should have been quicker and said "well if you would collect her at a decent time then the poor soul wouldnt have been hungry watching my DD eat her tea!!"
The wee thing has some issues with food as they only allow her to eat at mealtimes and not in between, they will make her go from 12-6/6.30 with no snacks. She is only 3!
I am going to have to say tonight that I can't do that.I wont let the pothers have a snack and not let her join in!
I only ever let them have a fruit snack after that time anyway , surely it is more important to teach kids to listen to their bodies and learn when they are hungry than to force them to watch other children eating and not let them do it?
Am I wrong? do I have to do what mum asks?
aaaaaaaa! I am so hacked off. I have no idea how I am going to explain all this without giving out too many personal details and coming over as an awful person. :blush:
My rant is about the mum of one of the LOs I mind for. I knew this family before I started and I knew it was going to end up like this. The parents of this wee one are shall we say not "natural" parents. I would say they struggle very much with their toddler, who is a sweet little thing. The only reason I took her on is that a. it would have been awkward for me to say know because of the way I know them (her DH gives mine a lift to work) and b. I really want to give this little girl a little insight into a more normal and relaxed way of life.
Yesterday she was booked in here at 12-4 (mum wasn't working just wanted time away). I was at the beach with my own kids and another mindee at 10am when my phone rang, it was M's mum wondering if I could take her there and then. They were sitting outside my house and wondered if I owuld be able to come home. I said no sorry I was at least 30 mins away and the kids were playing etc. I would see her at 12.
When I got back she arrived and said that she hadn't minded me not coming back for M (what?? SHE hadn't minded??) and tha she had just been getting on her nerves so she wanted her in early. Anyway she then asked if I could keep her until 5pm instead, I said ok as I was working til then anyway.
Well the wee one is a sweetie, but very hard work. She basically gets no freedom at all at home so she kind of pushes her limits a bit wherever she is. but overall a good kid and gets on great with my DD.
So 5pm comes, my DH gets in from work and I am frazzled, I felt really unwell and just wanted to go to bed. But no sign of M's mum.:rolleyes:
Eventually at 5.30pm I called her house to find out what was going on, Dad said oh it's ok she is on her way up. I told him I was worried something had happened as she was supposed to have been picked up at 5pm and it was now 5.30!!
Mum walked in all smiles etc, I told her I had called looking for her as she was half an hour late and she just said "oh I must have lost track of time" :angry: they live about a 5 min walk from my house, she hadnt been working so didnt get caught in traffic or anything she was just taking the you know what!
Then to cap it all off this morning she dropped her off again. She asked me not to let her eat anything after 3pm as she isnt eating her tea. I should have been quicker and said "well if you would collect her at a decent time then the poor soul wouldnt have been hungry watching my DD eat her tea!!"
The wee thing has some issues with food as they only allow her to eat at mealtimes and not in between, they will make her go from 12-6/6.30 with no snacks. She is only 3!
I am going to have to say tonight that I can't do that.I wont let the pothers have a snack and not let her join in!
I only ever let them have a fruit snack after that time anyway , surely it is more important to teach kids to listen to their bodies and learn when they are hungry than to force them to watch other children eating and not let them do it?
Am I wrong? do I have to do what mum asks?