Pipsqueak
10-01-2009, 01:23 PM
Re little 4yr old mindee. I have got an appointment (with parental permission) with his teacher on Wednesday.
What I am wondering
a) do I mention that I think he could be on the autistic spectrum
this is the one bugging me.....
b) the student teacher (not exactly sure what she is in relation to the mindees class);
you may remember that I mentioned a few weeks back that I was comforting the mindee on the way home when this person/student asked me how he was for me at home, when I said ok she rolled her eyes and said good luck
and yesterday evening I had to go into school whilst my middle son went of in search of his belongings and me and mindees waited in the warm outside the lunch hall.
Mindee started telling me that is where he goes for lunch and he has a packed lunch - throughout stammering and talking way to fast. (this was a bit of a revelation as this is the first time he has talked to me about school). Anyway mid converstaion with mindee, this person (don't even know her name) stood next to us and started talking to mindee, which made him stammer even more. I gently asked her to let him finish what he was saying but he clammed up. As I stood back up (I was at his level) she rolled her eyes (again) and said to me "he does that all the time, I can't understand him either so I don't bother listening to him anymore" I was gobsmacked - I told her I understood him perfectly well and that I thought it was unfair to talk like that in front of the children. She just smiled and walked of.
Now do I mention this attitude to the teacher. I am appalled that if this is the attitiude this child is getting no wonder he is how he is. I so worried that he is going to slip through the net and not get the help he so obviously needs. I hope that I am wrong about the autistic bit as well.
I think everyone has him pegged as a badly behaved boy or troublesome child who is not very bright. Granted there are some issues there - he has no listening or concentration skills (and I mean none), he has no sense of self (cannot recognise a picture of himself or even his sister), no idea of manners, respect (for others or possessions), little understanding of empathy or consquences of actions - like he hit J over the head with the toy car - he did not understand that he had made J cry by hurting him , turn taking, sharing.
I will not give up on this child - my heart aches for him because I think mum even has him tagged as the trouble maker. I feel for mum she has had a really rough ride and I think she is doing the best she possibly can but is too tired by the end of the day. (His nearly 2yr old sister is a little minx too with all the same above traits but with a really nasty little temper, and again we are working on this and she is slowly learning that I do not tolerate this behaviour).
Sorry I have gone of on one!:rolleyes:
Anyway - do I mention to the teacher the students attitude?
What I am wondering
a) do I mention that I think he could be on the autistic spectrum
this is the one bugging me.....
b) the student teacher (not exactly sure what she is in relation to the mindees class);
you may remember that I mentioned a few weeks back that I was comforting the mindee on the way home when this person/student asked me how he was for me at home, when I said ok she rolled her eyes and said good luck
and yesterday evening I had to go into school whilst my middle son went of in search of his belongings and me and mindees waited in the warm outside the lunch hall.
Mindee started telling me that is where he goes for lunch and he has a packed lunch - throughout stammering and talking way to fast. (this was a bit of a revelation as this is the first time he has talked to me about school). Anyway mid converstaion with mindee, this person (don't even know her name) stood next to us and started talking to mindee, which made him stammer even more. I gently asked her to let him finish what he was saying but he clammed up. As I stood back up (I was at his level) she rolled her eyes (again) and said to me "he does that all the time, I can't understand him either so I don't bother listening to him anymore" I was gobsmacked - I told her I understood him perfectly well and that I thought it was unfair to talk like that in front of the children. She just smiled and walked of.
Now do I mention this attitude to the teacher. I am appalled that if this is the attitiude this child is getting no wonder he is how he is. I so worried that he is going to slip through the net and not get the help he so obviously needs. I hope that I am wrong about the autistic bit as well.
I think everyone has him pegged as a badly behaved boy or troublesome child who is not very bright. Granted there are some issues there - he has no listening or concentration skills (and I mean none), he has no sense of self (cannot recognise a picture of himself or even his sister), no idea of manners, respect (for others or possessions), little understanding of empathy or consquences of actions - like he hit J over the head with the toy car - he did not understand that he had made J cry by hurting him , turn taking, sharing.
I will not give up on this child - my heart aches for him because I think mum even has him tagged as the trouble maker. I feel for mum she has had a really rough ride and I think she is doing the best she possibly can but is too tired by the end of the day. (His nearly 2yr old sister is a little minx too with all the same above traits but with a really nasty little temper, and again we are working on this and she is slowly learning that I do not tolerate this behaviour).
Sorry I have gone of on one!:rolleyes:
Anyway - do I mention to the teacher the students attitude?