nanny_ing
20-01-2008, 08:51 AM
Hi
I came on this site recently to ask your advice.
Here's the situation. I would be grateful if you could read and give me your advice.
I've started nannying for a friend of mine, for her two children. I have two of my own.
I drop my eldest and her eldest at nursery (4 years), my son is there part time hers is there full time.
I have a one year old and look after her baby during the day.
My friends eldest son who I will call Jack is a complete nightmare. The minute I get there he's screaming, jumping off furniture, completely ignores me.
He goes to nursery and zones in and picks on one child. I then have to be the one telling him no, don't do it. THe parents have already complained about Jack to the nursery and are subsequently leaving soon.
He's in trouble on a daily basis at nursery, hitting children, kicking, ignoring the staff.
He got hold of my baby by the nose which I wasn't happy about.:panic:
He's punched my son and they are not the best of friends. He's now being referred to a specialist for his behaviour.
My eldest son has had a hard time in terms of his behaviour was quite bad, and he is now coming through the other side and is doing so well at nursery I am so proud of him!:clapping: But I don't want this child having a bad effect on my son.
When I originally took this job I was pushed into a corner by my friend as I didn't want to do full time but three days, I knew it would be a nightmare.
So she didn't go to find a childminder for the other two days, again making me feel like I had to do the full week.
To cut a long story short ; I am not sure this is for me, I am struggling to cope with Jack, he is so demanding, to the point where I want to run away and hide from him.
However as my friend has so many things going on, she's working FT not happy at home, I feel I have become a bit of an agony aunt and now am lumbered with her two full time.
I want to either tell her to cut the hours down, or maybe I should tell her it's not for me full stop.
I run my own part time business which I am now turning clients away from as I have this job. What I earn in a week doing this I could earn in 5 hours work.
I must stress I haven't done this for the money, I am very much a stay at home mum with my children and did little work in my business just to make ends meet. I also did this job to help her out as I have been a nanny previously.
A family member is severly ill and we have a lot of worry with this too.
It's just too much for me but I don't know where to start with my friend. She doesn't listen at the best of times it's in one ear and out of the other.
Can anyone please suggest what I can do?
Thanks so much for reading this.
I came on this site recently to ask your advice.
Here's the situation. I would be grateful if you could read and give me your advice.
I've started nannying for a friend of mine, for her two children. I have two of my own.
I drop my eldest and her eldest at nursery (4 years), my son is there part time hers is there full time.
I have a one year old and look after her baby during the day.
My friends eldest son who I will call Jack is a complete nightmare. The minute I get there he's screaming, jumping off furniture, completely ignores me.
He goes to nursery and zones in and picks on one child. I then have to be the one telling him no, don't do it. THe parents have already complained about Jack to the nursery and are subsequently leaving soon.
He's in trouble on a daily basis at nursery, hitting children, kicking, ignoring the staff.
He got hold of my baby by the nose which I wasn't happy about.:panic:
He's punched my son and they are not the best of friends. He's now being referred to a specialist for his behaviour.
My eldest son has had a hard time in terms of his behaviour was quite bad, and he is now coming through the other side and is doing so well at nursery I am so proud of him!:clapping: But I don't want this child having a bad effect on my son.
When I originally took this job I was pushed into a corner by my friend as I didn't want to do full time but three days, I knew it would be a nightmare.
So she didn't go to find a childminder for the other two days, again making me feel like I had to do the full week.
To cut a long story short ; I am not sure this is for me, I am struggling to cope with Jack, he is so demanding, to the point where I want to run away and hide from him.
However as my friend has so many things going on, she's working FT not happy at home, I feel I have become a bit of an agony aunt and now am lumbered with her two full time.
I want to either tell her to cut the hours down, or maybe I should tell her it's not for me full stop.
I run my own part time business which I am now turning clients away from as I have this job. What I earn in a week doing this I could earn in 5 hours work.
I must stress I haven't done this for the money, I am very much a stay at home mum with my children and did little work in my business just to make ends meet. I also did this job to help her out as I have been a nanny previously.
A family member is severly ill and we have a lot of worry with this too.
It's just too much for me but I don't know where to start with my friend. She doesn't listen at the best of times it's in one ear and out of the other.
Can anyone please suggest what I can do?
Thanks so much for reading this.