8 year old with behavioural problems

[Helpinghands]

HI all..me again!

I have an 8 year old that started today for just 4 hours. He has behavioural problems at school, but with me he's quite happy and content.

I havn't had a boy of this age before, it's usually babies or toddlers. What kind of things do you recommend we do?

He only wants to watch sports on tv or the news and play with my dog.

I've tried to get him involved in cooking, painting, playdough, but he's not interested!

Please help..I don't want him to sit in front of the tv all day!!!!

[sarah707]

What does he do at home?

What do parents want him to do?

If he has behavioural problems, he might be used to being parked in front of the Tv.

You might find he does not know how to play.

[Andrea08]

hi,
i have worked with children with SED and the best way is partnership working
find out everything you can from parents school and other settings,
where did he go b4 you?

PC work is good ask him to find somthing out on the internet it could help?

good luck x

ps hi sarah where has all the day gone?

[sarah707]

ps hi sarah where has all the day gone?

:laughing: You'll find that happens a lot when you get on here

[Helpinghands]

What does he do at home?

What do parents want him to do?

If he has behavioural problems, he might be used to being parked in front of the Tv.

You might find he does not know how to play.

Thats what I was thinking. I've been trying to find out what he likes doing at home. All he plays with is his Play Station and watches Wrestling. His mum said he likes football so we did that in the garden. I will try some creative activities tomorrow and see if he gets involved.

I also need to get him eating healthy, he eats KFC at home.

[angeldelight]

No wonder hes got behavioural problems if hes always plonked in front of a tv

That can make the best people moody and grumpy if thats all they are doing

I am sure you will think of things to keep him occupied - even if he sits colouring or playing with bricks or cars - it does not have to be a activity
The 8 year old I mind loves doing things like that

Sounds like he is going to have much more fun with you than at home

Angel xx

[PaulaR]

I had a similar child and limited the tv. Tell him that he has so long to watch and then its being turned off.

Have you got any hama beads, some of my kids love them. They can get engrossed for hours

Or got to a webiste that has lots of printables and let him pick which one he wants and then print it off. If he has chosen it himself he might enjoy it more. It worked with my difficult one

[Pedagog]

What type of behavioral problems does he have? Is he on any medication?

My 8 year old son has aspergers syndrome, and is considered by some to have behavioural problems. He loves to sit and watch the news or history channel. Maybe use this and get him to join in discussions about current affairs, or make his own newspaper.

He likes the Computer then I would recommend Clue finders PC game educational and fun, or sign up to Pokemon Learning League, my son will spend hours on there given half a chance.

[Andrea08]

i just finished working with a boy with SEN,
a good idea is an egg timer
he would only play on the PC but i gave him a 5min worning with the egg timer that it was time 4 a change, after some time at an other activity he could go back to the PC and we did this all day.

good luck

[Minstrel]

Television can get addictive so you might find you have to wean him off it. Sounds awful like i'm talking about drugs but if hes that used to it then cutting it off completely might throw him out of sorts and make his behaviour worse. cut it down and slowly replace with good ideas already given.

[Helpinghands]

What type of behavioral problems does he have? Is he on any medication?

My 8 year old son has aspergers syndrome, and is considered by some to have behavioural problems. He loves to sit and watch the news or history channel. Maybe use this and get him to join in discussions about current affairs, or make his own newspaper.

He likes the Computer then I would recommend Clue finders PC game educational and fun, or sign up to Pokemon Learning League, my son will spend hours on there given half a chance.

He does watch the news actually because today he was telling me all about the Christopher Foster Case.

He has difficulty socialising at school and was dragged out of his last school because of this..poor kid. So he is doing 3 hours a day at my local school and 4 hours with me.

Iv got some things lined up, he's quite confident so hopefully he'll get stuck in.

[Helpinghands]

Television can get addictive so you might find you have to wean him off it. Sounds awful like i'm talking about drugs but if hes that used to it then cutting it off completely might throw him out of sorts and make his behaviour worse. cut it down and slowly replace with good ideas already given.

Very sensible..thankyou. I will try the egg timer!

[Pedagog]

He does watch the news actually because today he was telling me all about the Christopher Foster Case.

He has difficulty socialising at school and was dragged out of his last school because of this..poor kid. So he is doing 3 hours a day at my local school and 4 hours with me.

Iv got some things lined up, he's quite confident so hopefully he'll get stuck in.

He sounds very much like my son. There is a great children's news paper called First News, my son gets it every week and reads it cover to cover several times.

My sons social skills with his peers are diabolical, but put him with a group of adults or teenagers and he is fine.

Does he have an official diagnosis?

[Helpinghands]

He sounds very much like my son. There is a great children's news paper called First News, my son gets it every week and reads it cover to cover several times.

My sons social skills with his peers are diabolical, but put him with a group of adults or teenagers and he is fine.

Does he have an official diagnosis?

Not that I know of yet, I'm meeting with his SENCO soon I think. Conversations are actually intimidating sometimes because it's like talking to a mature grown up and the way he speaks is like an adult..for example when he arrived yesturday he asked "So what have you done with your morning?" with his arms held in front of him.

I have worked as a SENCO in the past, but 7 years ago and only really helped children with ADHD and Autism

[Pedagog]

Oh you could be talking about my son, he has always talked like an adult, one of the reasons he was bullied so much at school, and hated so much by teachers who thought he was taking the Mickey. When my son was 5 the SLT tested his vocabulary, she gave up when she got to the 14 year olds age group, as she was getting bored with the test.

Does he read?, if so invest in some horrible history books, of the science ones, my son is currently sat at my feet reading me one about deadly poisons.