fluff1975
01-10-2016, 08:44 AM
Hi there.
I'm still having trouble settling my new little boy and I'm feeling really unsupported by the parents and in the words of Donkey in Shrek: I think I need a hug.
He's 11 months old, and has only been cared for by his parents. He co-sleeps with them, is carried in a sling, sleeps on mum and dad in the day/rocked to sleep and is exclusively breast-fed. I don't have and issue with any of these things however I don't feel that they've prepared him at all for childcare. When I first met mum she was very open about their parenting and so I highlighted the issues that it could cause with childcare (ie not being able to be worn in a sling for sleeps, not being able to comfort with a bottle). I knew settling would be an issue but I only have one other child on the days he comes so thought it would be managable.
As I mentioned in a previous post about this, the (nearly) 3 year old I look after is becoming increasingly distressed and doesn't want to come to my house anymore because in her words, its scary. That near enough broke my heart :( The only days she does with me are his days and neither has the flexibility at work to change their days.
He comes on a Monday and Tuesday and this is the problem I'm having... Monday he cries. ALL ******* DAY. I mean, all day. I have NEVER in 20 years of childcare met a child who can keep the crying up for 8 hours. Tuesday, he cries for about 30 minutes to an hour after drop off and on the whole thats it aside from the usual grumbles of hunger and tiredness, before he starts again at about 4pm. Mum collects between 4 and 5. I've offered a Friday morning to break up the 5 day stretch. I suggested the next 4 weeks which takes us to half term (by which time I think he'll either be settled or I'll have given notice). Mum thought this was a really great idea and we arranged a time for dad to drop him off. The problem? Dad. Dad has the next 4 fridays off shift and wants to spend them with his boy. I completely get this but I'm feeling really crap as I just don't think they understand how unsettling and upsetting it all is. Regardless of their intention, I feel like I'm being left to sort it out, that its my problem.
Sorry to waffle on. Any kind words, hugs or advice greatly received. Thank you.
I'm still having trouble settling my new little boy and I'm feeling really unsupported by the parents and in the words of Donkey in Shrek: I think I need a hug.
He's 11 months old, and has only been cared for by his parents. He co-sleeps with them, is carried in a sling, sleeps on mum and dad in the day/rocked to sleep and is exclusively breast-fed. I don't have and issue with any of these things however I don't feel that they've prepared him at all for childcare. When I first met mum she was very open about their parenting and so I highlighted the issues that it could cause with childcare (ie not being able to be worn in a sling for sleeps, not being able to comfort with a bottle). I knew settling would be an issue but I only have one other child on the days he comes so thought it would be managable.
As I mentioned in a previous post about this, the (nearly) 3 year old I look after is becoming increasingly distressed and doesn't want to come to my house anymore because in her words, its scary. That near enough broke my heart :( The only days she does with me are his days and neither has the flexibility at work to change their days.
He comes on a Monday and Tuesday and this is the problem I'm having... Monday he cries. ALL ******* DAY. I mean, all day. I have NEVER in 20 years of childcare met a child who can keep the crying up for 8 hours. Tuesday, he cries for about 30 minutes to an hour after drop off and on the whole thats it aside from the usual grumbles of hunger and tiredness, before he starts again at about 4pm. Mum collects between 4 and 5. I've offered a Friday morning to break up the 5 day stretch. I suggested the next 4 weeks which takes us to half term (by which time I think he'll either be settled or I'll have given notice). Mum thought this was a really great idea and we arranged a time for dad to drop him off. The problem? Dad. Dad has the next 4 fridays off shift and wants to spend them with his boy. I completely get this but I'm feeling really crap as I just don't think they understand how unsettling and upsetting it all is. Regardless of their intention, I feel like I'm being left to sort it out, that its my problem.
Sorry to waffle on. Any kind words, hugs or advice greatly received. Thank you.