alex__17
14-04-2016, 07:07 PM
I thought my 3 year olds tantrums were bad but had one of the worst afternoons with schoolies ever and I'd be grateful for any advice as I've not had much experience of dealing with behaviour for this age group and its not like I can sit them on the time out step like a toddler!
Only on a Thursday I collect 2 sets of sibling girls (one set aged 8&4 the others aged 8&5).
Behaviour hasn't been too bad, little ones tested me a bit at first but respond really well to positive praise and are good as gold now, but their older sisters are just so mean and nasty and today was by far the worst they've been, I really felt I'd give notice if it carries on, but would then lose their younger sisters too which is a lot to lose and such a shame as they're all nice kids when not being so horrible!
So today the walk home didn't start well with them first hanging back for miles, then running ahead, knowing we have a no running rule as the younger ones follow and roads are busy. They then hid, and then wanted us all to walk to their house where their mum was working from home and then started threatening they'd go on their own... Anyway managed to get home, they hoarded all the cardboard boxes and sheets and said they were building a den, we went outside and they yelled at the little ones they couldn't join in so I got them a load of den building bits and we built one for the younger ones.
They then kept running over to pull down the younger ones den, poured water over it, threw chairs at the kids etc etc, emptied a load of hay on the grass then chucked it into the little ones den so they thought they would have to clear it up. Then when dinner was nearly ready I asked them to clear up, the older ones got all stroppy and started refusing to tidy up, I reminded them they'd agreed to clear up any mess and they did a bit of eye rolling and huffing but started, the second my back was turned they were chucking it all onto the little ones den, never mind if it hurt them or broke stuff, and just being so mean!!
Day ended with one older sibling cracking her little sister hard over the head with a wooden pole, when her mum said it was time to leave, and the other usually tells her mum to go home but today gave her a massive cuddle all smiles and her mum said 'what have you done', gave her a brief run down and the child burst into floods of tears...
Anyway, what can I do?! They had plenty to do but were still more interested in being nasty to the younger ones who were playing so nicely together and not annoying the older ones for a change.
Sorry for the mammoth post I'm at a bit of a loss as to what to do, it was only 2.5 hours but every minute there was something wrong and just made the whole day seem dreadful!
Only on a Thursday I collect 2 sets of sibling girls (one set aged 8&4 the others aged 8&5).
Behaviour hasn't been too bad, little ones tested me a bit at first but respond really well to positive praise and are good as gold now, but their older sisters are just so mean and nasty and today was by far the worst they've been, I really felt I'd give notice if it carries on, but would then lose their younger sisters too which is a lot to lose and such a shame as they're all nice kids when not being so horrible!
So today the walk home didn't start well with them first hanging back for miles, then running ahead, knowing we have a no running rule as the younger ones follow and roads are busy. They then hid, and then wanted us all to walk to their house where their mum was working from home and then started threatening they'd go on their own... Anyway managed to get home, they hoarded all the cardboard boxes and sheets and said they were building a den, we went outside and they yelled at the little ones they couldn't join in so I got them a load of den building bits and we built one for the younger ones.
They then kept running over to pull down the younger ones den, poured water over it, threw chairs at the kids etc etc, emptied a load of hay on the grass then chucked it into the little ones den so they thought they would have to clear it up. Then when dinner was nearly ready I asked them to clear up, the older ones got all stroppy and started refusing to tidy up, I reminded them they'd agreed to clear up any mess and they did a bit of eye rolling and huffing but started, the second my back was turned they were chucking it all onto the little ones den, never mind if it hurt them or broke stuff, and just being so mean!!
Day ended with one older sibling cracking her little sister hard over the head with a wooden pole, when her mum said it was time to leave, and the other usually tells her mum to go home but today gave her a massive cuddle all smiles and her mum said 'what have you done', gave her a brief run down and the child burst into floods of tears...
Anyway, what can I do?! They had plenty to do but were still more interested in being nasty to the younger ones who were playing so nicely together and not annoying the older ones for a change.
Sorry for the mammoth post I'm at a bit of a loss as to what to do, it was only 2.5 hours but every minute there was something wrong and just made the whole day seem dreadful!