teenyandbear
29-01-2016, 12:58 PM
Hi,
I haven't posted much on here before, but I'm stuck as to where to turn. I hope I'm posting this in the right place.
I currently have a 2yo mindee three days a week, 11.5 hours a day. She's been with me since the beginning of the school year. It started well enough, she was very hysterical the first day or two, but managed to settle. Her Mum works really long hours and I think at the moment, days are literally going by before the child sees her mum (no judgement!) Her Dad drops her off and collects her most days. I should add that her parents separated in November.
As aforementioned, the little girl has been with me for 5 months now, but sadly it feels like she could have started with me last week, I feel like I cannot make a connection with her. I have had sleepless nights and in these last days shed tears as I feel like I'm doing something wrong. She is very well cared for (I have two of my children and another mindee in wrap around care). She is with me nearly 36 hours a week but I feel like I don't know her. She doesn't show any affection towards me at all, as well as refusing to listen to me, nor respect any of the boundaries in place. I feel like I'm only telling her "no".
She's an only child so when I speak to her parents about what I'm experiencing, they say "Oh it doesn't happen at home." She's recently taken to ear-piercing screams and shoving my son; he's been hurt several times now after being sent into the radiator and door. I have been very patient and accommodating; taking into consideration that perhaps this behaviour is due to lack of attention at home, her parents split etc, but I'm at my wits end. I just don't think this arrangement is working.
I feel disappointed that after 5 months and despite my very best efforts to break down the barriers that are there, that I just can't do this anymore.
Does anyone else have experience of this where the fit just isn't right? I've had three other mindees in my care since registering last May, who have settled beautifully, great feedback from the parents etc, I have an old mindee coming back to me etc I know I am a good childminder. I don't believe I could be doing any more that I am, to make this situation work. Just feel a bit hopeless!
Any advice or words of wisdom much appreciated.
F
I haven't posted much on here before, but I'm stuck as to where to turn. I hope I'm posting this in the right place.
I currently have a 2yo mindee three days a week, 11.5 hours a day. She's been with me since the beginning of the school year. It started well enough, she was very hysterical the first day or two, but managed to settle. Her Mum works really long hours and I think at the moment, days are literally going by before the child sees her mum (no judgement!) Her Dad drops her off and collects her most days. I should add that her parents separated in November.
As aforementioned, the little girl has been with me for 5 months now, but sadly it feels like she could have started with me last week, I feel like I cannot make a connection with her. I have had sleepless nights and in these last days shed tears as I feel like I'm doing something wrong. She is very well cared for (I have two of my children and another mindee in wrap around care). She is with me nearly 36 hours a week but I feel like I don't know her. She doesn't show any affection towards me at all, as well as refusing to listen to me, nor respect any of the boundaries in place. I feel like I'm only telling her "no".
She's an only child so when I speak to her parents about what I'm experiencing, they say "Oh it doesn't happen at home." She's recently taken to ear-piercing screams and shoving my son; he's been hurt several times now after being sent into the radiator and door. I have been very patient and accommodating; taking into consideration that perhaps this behaviour is due to lack of attention at home, her parents split etc, but I'm at my wits end. I just don't think this arrangement is working.
I feel disappointed that after 5 months and despite my very best efforts to break down the barriers that are there, that I just can't do this anymore.
Does anyone else have experience of this where the fit just isn't right? I've had three other mindees in my care since registering last May, who have settled beautifully, great feedback from the parents etc, I have an old mindee coming back to me etc I know I am a good childminder. I don't believe I could be doing any more that I am, to make this situation work. Just feel a bit hopeless!
Any advice or words of wisdom much appreciated.
F