melco
05-03-2014, 02:38 PM
Hi,
I need some help and advise please. I have been looking after a little boy since he was 7mths old and now he is 27mths. I have him 4 days a week for 9 hours a day.
Since he was about 18mths he started to scream and smack, it was not too bad to start with he was taken away from the situation and told no and then allowed to go back and play but since before Christmas it has started to get worse. From the moment he arrived he shouts at me "No" he throws toys about, he smacks and has in the past tried to bite me but I have got my hand away quick enough.
Sometimes the behaviour can be over nothing, for example the other day I went to put him in the high chair for a snack and as mt hand was near him he went to bite. I have had days where I don't know what to do anymore. We use time out and he has a reward chart but we have only been using that for a few weeks so things may change.
But today really upset me as he was trying to fit a tractor in to a toy house but the tractor was too big and he was getting stressed with it, I got down to his level and held his hands otherwise he tries to smack and just explained very nicely that it was too big and it will not fit and he tried to head butt me!! If it was the first time I would not think he had tried to but have been informed by Mum that he has done it to her and it hurt so bad she though he had broken her nose!!
He was put straight on to time out and afterwards I tried to say to him the behaviour is not good, I know he is only 2 but he knows what he is doing as the head butt was because he could not hit me as I was holding his hands and when he is on time out he has started to shout from time out that he will not be saying sorry so I know he knows that what he is doing is wrong.
I asked him if he wanted to hurt me and he said "yes" so thinking maybe he misheard the question I said "go on then" and he tried to smack. My Husband has seen how much his behaviour is getting me down so thinks I should give notice but the parent is a friend and I also mind for her nephew who comes the same days and times and has started to copy his behaviour but he thinks its funny.
At the end of the day I feel so down about it and really let it get to me as I don't understand what I am doing wrong to get this behaviour from him.
Any help or advise would be appreciated
Thanks
melco
I need some help and advise please. I have been looking after a little boy since he was 7mths old and now he is 27mths. I have him 4 days a week for 9 hours a day.
Since he was about 18mths he started to scream and smack, it was not too bad to start with he was taken away from the situation and told no and then allowed to go back and play but since before Christmas it has started to get worse. From the moment he arrived he shouts at me "No" he throws toys about, he smacks and has in the past tried to bite me but I have got my hand away quick enough.
Sometimes the behaviour can be over nothing, for example the other day I went to put him in the high chair for a snack and as mt hand was near him he went to bite. I have had days where I don't know what to do anymore. We use time out and he has a reward chart but we have only been using that for a few weeks so things may change.
But today really upset me as he was trying to fit a tractor in to a toy house but the tractor was too big and he was getting stressed with it, I got down to his level and held his hands otherwise he tries to smack and just explained very nicely that it was too big and it will not fit and he tried to head butt me!! If it was the first time I would not think he had tried to but have been informed by Mum that he has done it to her and it hurt so bad she though he had broken her nose!!
He was put straight on to time out and afterwards I tried to say to him the behaviour is not good, I know he is only 2 but he knows what he is doing as the head butt was because he could not hit me as I was holding his hands and when he is on time out he has started to shout from time out that he will not be saying sorry so I know he knows that what he is doing is wrong.
I asked him if he wanted to hurt me and he said "yes" so thinking maybe he misheard the question I said "go on then" and he tried to smack. My Husband has seen how much his behaviour is getting me down so thinks I should give notice but the parent is a friend and I also mind for her nephew who comes the same days and times and has started to copy his behaviour but he thinks its funny.
At the end of the day I feel so down about it and really let it get to me as I don't understand what I am doing wrong to get this behaviour from him.
Any help or advise would be appreciated
Thanks
melco